Tuck's Father Passes Away

[Mollyrae]

Hello to all:

I wanted to let everyone know that Tuck's Dad ultimately didn't make it. He passed away on May 13th. Please send well wishes too her and her family as she is in need of support right now.

Thanks to all,
Mollyrae

[Sarajmt]

This is something that is very difficult to get over.  After my dad passed,  it was very difficult for me to get over it.  I couldn't speak about him without a lump in my throat for many years afterward. Tuck mentioned being a daddy's girl.  So was I.

Be patient with yourself Tuck.  Give yourself time.   It does get easier but you've got a long rough road ahead of you.  I wish I could tell you some deep profound thing that would make it all better.  But I can't.  The only solution I know is time.  And above all, be kind to yourself.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Sara

[RunningMom]

Tuck, you and your family are still in our thoughts in prayers.  I know this is very difficult to deal with and your father is in a better place, which he is no longer sick and in pain.  You were there for him every step of the way and I'm sure he immensly appreciates all the hard work you put in to care for him.  I'm so very sorry for your loss. :(  

[jamlws]

I know when my grandma died she was like another mom to me, it really got to me. I still miss her and love her with everything I have and pray to her every night and she died when I was 12. I know she is still up there looking out for me and every since she died when something great would happen in my life it would rain, it rained the night I met my husband it rained on my wedding day, even tho people hate when it rains on your wedding day it made me so happy to see it, it rained the days when both my kids was born, it also rained the day we closed on our house. So it is her way of telling me she is crying happy tears for me. So when it rains on my good days I know she is here helping me and watching over me.
It will take some time, I think you need to plan something for your husband on fathers day to help you to get thru the day. Not to take your mind off your dad cause that will never happen but do something that you know would make your dad happy, you know what I mean? And pray to him cause I know he is listening to you and is there when you need him. I am so glad your husband has been helping you thru this, that just proves when things get bad we can always be there for each other.
hang in there ((HUGS))
Jamie

[Tuckamore]

Thank You Sunkitty!! I am sorry to hear about the loss of your mom. I know how tough it can be. My heart goes out to you and all that have lost their parent(s).

I never anticipated the pain of grief that has befallen me. Little things upset me. I find myself crying at supper and unable to eat. Supper was always the time that we shared our days activities and dad summed up his day and/or talked about old times.

Bless my husband. He has cleaned dad's bedroom and carpet and removed all his things from that room. But the door remains closed and I cannot open it.

Father's Day is fast approaching and everywhere I am reminded of how wonderful it is to have a father. Mine has gone to Heaven. And my heart misses him so deeply.

Knowing he is in a better place does little to ease my grief. I am selfish and I grieve because I miss him. But it's early, not yet a month. I am hopeful that my wounded heart will heal in time.

I am so thankful for your support and all the support I have had from MH, family and friends. Unfortunately I feel like a little girl that has lost her daddy. Right now, nothing really helps fill this huge aching hole that is called grief.

Still Mel's Daughter,
Tuck

[designgyrl]

Tuck,

I'm so sorry to hear about your father.  It is one of the most difficult things in life as having a parent pass away.  My mom lost her life to cancer a few years ago, and it still chokes me up.  

Thank you for being such a great support system on here, we appreciate it.  My thoughts and prayers go out to you.  

[sandee1818]

I think God carried you through this time as well as your Dad.
God has done some amazing things in my life and I know he is always by our side.
take care of yourself and know we are praying for you:)

[Tuckamore]

Hello My Dear MedHelp Friends,

Thank you Sandee and Mollyrae for keeping the boards updated on my sorrowful week.

Everyone says they had a great father, and I am sure they all did. My father was also great. He touched so many lives in so many positive ways. He was loved and respected by all, a hard working, honest and trustworthy man. My dad and I had a very special life-long bond. Most of the good things in me are because of my father's love, guidance and wonderful role model he displayed.  When other's said he should be in an alternative care living facility I kept him where he and I wanted him to be, with me. His mind stayed sharp to the very end...and the last audible words he said was my name, just minutes before he passed.

I know that I do not often express my religious views as I think ours are all personal. I do want to share with you that Jesus was in my dad's room those final days. You could feel His presence, comfort and love and I know that my dad felt Him also. Jesus reached out His arms to take my dad Home to his Father's House.    

As one of the Community Leaders on this Forum it is obvious that I share the challenges of severe chronic pain with so many of you. During the last few days my father was bed-ridden he required frequent repositioning, pulling and tugging with a sheet to make him as comfortable in bed as possible. Unfortunately the large mesh that acts as my abdominal and lower back muscles must have been torn performing those repositioning tasks. I am now in acute abdominal and lower back pain in addition to my usual pain and I will see my PCP tomorrow....if I can tolerate the pain that long.

So my dear friends, thank you so very much for your support, kind words and prayers. They were all heard and deeply appreciated. I will return to the board as my body pain and broken heart permit. Know that I am healing and that I care about all of you as you struggle through your own chronic pain challenges.

Peace to You.
Still, Mel's Daughter,
~Tuck  

[Sjoggie]

I am so sorry for your loss Tuck.  I haven't been on the boards for awhile but you made me feel welcome and are truly a wonderful person.

I am so sorry for your loss and I know words cannot touch the pain but I am so sorry.

You are in my prayers.

[opus88]

Tuck you have done a wonderful job of caring for you're father for so many years, he loved and appreciated everything you did for him.....now he is at peace.
My prayers are with him and with you at this time. I am so sorry for you're loss.

[freebird63]

Am very sorry for your loss Tuck, you have been there for so many of us here.  I know its not possible for us to be right there with you in person, but know that in spirit everyone on this board is with you, in thought and prayer.  God bless
Chuck

[sandee1818]

I have heard fro her. She said the funeral is Monday. She is doing as well as can be expected at a time such a this.

[Sarajmt]

Has anyone heard from her?  This is such an awful time.  Hopefully she'll find some comfort in her memories of all she did for him.  May God grant her peace.

[sandee1818]

I have already posted the news of Tuck's Dad in the " to members' post.
I just wanted to make sure that other's knew as many has already posted their sympathies in that one.
We all hope she is doing okay and knows we are here for her.

[namnam46]

Mollyrae, thank you for keeping us informed on Tuck's situation with her Dad. You are such a good friend to her and I know she appreciates it as much  or MORE than we do!!

Tuck, you and your family will always be in our thoughts and prayers!! Especially these next few days as you go thru the difficult days ahead.

God Bless You All....Sherry

[geminigirl1963]

Thank you keeping us all informed.  Tuck, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss and my thought and prayers are with you and your family in this time of sorrow.

[dame_wilbur]

Thanks for letting us know.

Peace be with Tuck, and with her father on his next Turn.