If you have an anal/rectal tear, you seriously need to be under a doctor's care and observation. You may need to have the area surgically repaired since infection is a very real danger. If you're still working with your OB and getting nowhere, go see a gastroenterologist. Meanwhile, Dee1956 gave you good advice. Anything you can do to keep the stool soft will lessen your pain until you can be properly diagnosed and treated.
Hello, I am so sorry for your pain, you could try stool softeners and/or prune juice until you heal. For long term help you should eat more fiber, apples, oranges, broccoli
I hope you feel better soon