2 kids who mother kiled herself

[stepmom94]

I have 2 kids, who's mother killed herself ,she did drugs and was pregant with another baby. they were 5 yrs old when this happen . the boy wants to run away ,sometimes wants to kill him self and now i am in picture of a mom figure , dad gives everything to the kids he says he feels gulty and he does not know what to do. I love the dad and the kids but not sure how to handle this 11 yr old boy. the girl is not too bad but has her times in wanting to have me around but then does not like it because dad does not buy them everything they want . ex. like a 1,000.000 dog. It was the 3 of them and now i am in the picture they like it but then they don't. I just got told that the son wants to kill helf or run away like before. i need help in dealing with a dad who feels bad and a step son to be . we were getting married but this happen not sure what to do with the kids or dad. help please stepmom to be

[margypops]

You realise what a huge issue you are taking on? Possibly some counselling would be in order as the children have been through a lot of trauma.Focus on the childrens positive side and make sure they are getting plenty of attention , is Dad involved and playing games and outside activities, let him do the chastising of them .let him give his son extra attention and some ball games and sports together., they need his time and care more than material things, the dog is Fun and a good thing .

[sherbear632]

as a daughter of a father who commited suicide and a mother to euthenasia i have to say that if the children know of the suicide of the parents then the risk of them wanting to goes up dramatically ..having said that i think the both of you need to be on the same page. dont spoil them because of the guilt you may feel for their lives, have a family meeting about the rules of the house and do it together.  also being straight with them about their feelings of suicide is a must, talk to a counsillor about the way you should be wording things and what you should be saying.

[imanaddict]

These kids need to get to therapy ASAP to talk about their mother's suicide and their emotions about it. Kids can sometimes have a hard time expressing how they feel and will usually act out because of it. They lost their mom and I'm sure there is a lot of hurt inside their little hearts that they need to get out.

[mtgoat911]

i am a parent of 2
and also a recovering addict
who used drugs to cover up suicidle thoughts
i wish the mom would have found some help
for now the dad should focus on his children
taking them to therapy
possibly putting them on medication for PTS
are you married to their father?
xo