My daughter is 10 years old and is still peeing in her pants. She is a very smart and stubborn little girl. She does this in "spells" or "episodes"; she will go a little while with very few accidents (maybe 1-2 a week) to just out right peeing on herself multiple times a day.
Her background: she was adopted at age of 2, she has a biological younger sister (7yrs) and 3 "step" brothers (8, 7, & 3). She was day potty trained completely at age of 4, night time trained around 6 yrs. She does have ADHD, which the doctors have told me that night time accidents will occur as a side effect to ADHD. So we are in understanding to these occurrences and do not bother with mentioning. When she was 8 we did have a test run ( I can not remember what it was called) but they did an ultrasound on her bladder, kidney and tubes. They said that everything looked normal except that she didn't want to completely drain her bladder. They said that they only problem they seen was that she would just have to go to the bathroom more often because she doesn't empty her bladder. She didn't have an infection either, they checked that before they ran the ultrasound.
When she is having these "episodes" she says she doesn't hurt anywhere. She has told the counselor that she just didn't want to go the bathroom because she is busy doing other things. Or she finds some way under the sun to blame me for it. We have done what the doctor has suggested: making her go to the bathroom every hour or while she sits on the potty making her hold it as long as she could before actually peeing. As a deterrent we have tried everything that we (including the counselor) can think of. We have been supportive and encouraging. We have done the rewards thing muliple times, where if she can go for so long without doing it she will get a surprise. But it has become a never ending cycle that we had to stop because some of our other children started doing it just for the surprise. We have done the embarrassing thing: making her wear her clothes so everyone can smell her, putting her in diapers with and without covering it up. She just started using the diapers like she was 2 again and has even asked for them. She has been washing her own laundry for over a year. We have also done other punishments as well, like time-outs etc. There is one we have not tried due to the fact we have so many other kids, which is having her go without bottoms. This is also how we potty trained our 2 youngest least of which is 3 yrs. We have talked so much that she starts toning us out before we even finish the first sentence. We are at complete lose and don't know where, what else to do. She is frustrated with us and we are definitely frustrated with the situation. Why is she doing this? and how do we correct it?