7 year old still wetting her pants

[tamtamry]

I have a seven year old daughter, she's still wetting and pooping her pants. at home, school, and even at the babysitters. I took her to the doctor and they said when she's ready it will click... Come on enough is enough.. What can i do to help her with this proublem ... PLEASE

[momcg]

I have no idea, I just posted the same problem.  Our daughter does not relieve her bm's in her pants.  You have all of my support and understanding.  Its very frustrating.  Tonight we finished homework and were going for a walk, I had asked her if she went to the bathroom before we left.  She ignored me and a few seconds later she wet herself.  UGH!!!  We had to turn around and she was grounded then.  This isn't fair to her brother who is 9.  I told him he could stay out but he really wanted to go to the park.  My husband and I work split shifts, so its either we all go or we all DON'T go.  Because of her punishment, her attitude is horrible.  

Hang in there, hopefully we hear some good advice.

momcg

[Deb4christ]

I have been going through the same thing with my son.  I've done some research and I truly believe it's due to "encopresis".. They don't mean to hold onto their poop.  The kids don't understand why they are "staining" their underwear.  They'll hide the dirty underwear under the bed or closet to not let the parent know that they did it again.  These poor children are embarrassed and their self-esteem is effected by other children teasing them or us (parents) calling them lazy etc..   Please google "The Anguish of Accidential Soiling".. This really explains it all.  I'm taking my child to a pediatric gastroenterologist.
I hope this gives you hope.  Please realize your child isn't doing this on purpose.  I encourage you to get some help.  
Deb

[tamtamry]

Thanks Deb i will surly check that out..,, and Momcg iam so glad there are other ppl dealing with the same thing iam... :) I thought i was the only person ...

[redfaery77]

What if the soiling is from not wiping properly?  I'm a stepmom, and have been with the kids since they were three.  It seems now is when they are having the most problems with anything.  The little 6yr old girl copies her 9 yr old brother in almost everything he does, and if there isn't toilet paper in their bathroom they don't think to get more or ask for more, they just let their butts go dirty then I find their underware and get really upset.  They feel bad, but they know better.  That is lazy.  What do I do about that?

The 6 yr old wets her pants.  Not regularly, but just doesn't go then pees and and doest tell anyone until you see the big wet spot.  How do I handle that?

[frustratedmom007]

I hvae found several listings about this problem.  I don't think anyone has tried as many things as I have.  I feel like I am almost an expert now except I can't find the one thing that is going to make it stop.  My daughte is almost 8 and the problem is severe.  She is not constipated, she had ultrasounds.  She did pelvic floor training at 7 and it helped a little but then she refused to do the excercises after we graduated.  We've seen counselors, behaviorial specialists and even a hynotherapist.  I really thought it was psychological and that the hypnosis would work but no effect.  She is taking Detrol for bladder spasms but it only helps.  She still has many accidents a day.  ONce in awhile she will poop her pants especially when she is upset or mad.  She doesn't like to talk about any of this and tries to change the subject.  THe one thing that works the best but is impossible to carry out for more than a day at a time is ahving her wear no underwear under a dress.  Then she knew immediately when she started to pee and would run to the potty to avoid a big puddle.  I wish I had a week to take her somewhere and do this for a solid week and retrain her mind and body.  When we did the pelvic floor training and she focused on that it really helped.  I'm tired of the expenses of all these appointments.  Has anyone had any success?

[sveajo]

I have a 7 year old daughter. She pees and poops her pants as well. She was fully potty trained at about 2 1/2, but right around 4 she started having the accidents. I do not know what to do. We have taken her to the Dr. who said its just part of her growth pattern. When we stay on her about going to the bathrrom, she does better, but we can't be with her all day long. Someone please help us.

[Dizzy_586]

I had no idea that it would be so difficult to try and teach a 7-year old that it just is NOT appropriate for them to soil their underware.  We babysit for a little boy twice a week.  The first night I thought I smelled BM but really never thought to "ask him about it" until it happened again every night he was at our house for 2 weeks straight.  I finally got up the nerve to ask him if he had an accident and after several coachings of "you can tell me" - he said he did have an accident.  We've been babysitting this little boy for 4 months and EVERY single night he has an accident and I'm cleaning him up.  We finally talked with the parents last night and requested that they maybe see about getting him evaluated I really think he needs someone to talk to.  I know he was mauled by a pit bull when he was 4 years old and from talking with the parents last night, they made it sound like he's been going through this for 3 years and the poor little guy probably thinks this is NORMAL now.  Do you have any other suggestions other than counseling?  I just don't want him to continue with this problem through school because kids can be so cruel and tease .  

[babygirl6152]

couldn't you leave several tissue rolls by the toilet? Ours are all within reaching distance- quite an easy fix- and it's not like you will ever stop needing TP- so buy tons of it and keep it close- will save you alot of this anger -

[shyone13]

my bother is 12years old and pops his pants but doesnt wet them iam 13 years od and am really worried about him i dont think hes lazy at all
hes starting hgh school soon andiam worried he will get teased any advice please

[kerry031]

My seven year old daughter is just the same and wets and soils herself, we've tried everything and have seen a consultant, even our health visitor is baffled. Is there going to be any light at the end of the tunnel? I would love to hear from people who have had the same experience but have gotten through it and to know that my child will get better. We are desperate not just for us but for her as this is ruining what should be the happiest days of her life. I feel for everyone out there who is going through this.