Appropriate Clothing

[BDJALLEN]

My daugther is 6 yrs and in first grade.  She is a HUGE tomboy and will not wear any "girls" cloths. She is constantly being confused for a boy.  It drives me crazy but she just laughs.   My husband and I have changed the term to "appropriate" cloths for school.  This means plain but now it is back to a morning battle over what she will wear.  After school, she barly is in the door before she changes into boy cloths.  We are ready to throw them all out.  Any ideas??? Help!

[RockRose]

I don't really battle over clothes,  my kids have worn some pretty interesting get-ups,  so mostly I think you pick your battles and clothing isn't one of them.

What would concern me is she is clearly preferring "boy" clothes.  It's unlikely in this day and age (unlike generations past when this was true) that boy clothes are actually just more comfortable and easier to wear than girl clothes.  This generation the clothes are the same,  they just have different colors and patterns.  She's not choosing comfort.  She's choosing to look like a boy.

I think I'd have her sit down and make a list of what are good things about girls,  and good things about boys,  and bad things about each.  Just make up some excuse,  you're doing an online poll or something.  

I think you'll find the answer in her opinion of girls and boys.  Should be illuminating.

[binnks]

I agree with cherie762. Don't make a big deal over nothing, she's not hurting anyone. Fix her hair like a girl.

[Cherie762]

meant to say in the " am " set out two outfits.....

[babygirl6152]

she's 6- if she has the clothes- didn't you buy them for her?
which means it was ok at some point and now she likes it and you are sort of changing the rules 'in the middle of an inning'

with all the things there are to worry about are you maybe being a tad bit too much of a micro-manager?

on the other hand- if you are going to be firm about it- have two sides to her closet- some are appropriate school clothes and you pick out two sets the night before- in the morning she can choose what she wears from those two outfits. When she fusses about it- walk out of the room- she is 6..... you will all laugh about it when she is 16/

[Cherie762]

well she is 6 so obviously the clothes were  not purchased by her, dont make this too much of a power struggle. In the a, set out two appropiate outfits for her and let her decide which one of the two to wear. Children of her age are overwhelmed with too many choices,
Honestly if she were my daughter and she wanted to wear "boy" clothes i would let her.

My middle son was odd about clothes he decided in second grade that he liked orange and i bought him several orange shirts, thats about all he wore but he got straight A's was a good kid, you have to choose your battles, is her dressing like a "boy" really worth fighting, shes gonna feel "wrong" and critisied by you.If this is the worst problem you have your one lucky family.