HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[kittyboo123]

Please help me--- I have just found my 9year old daughter accessing hardcore pornography from the internet!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'm not angry with my daughter-I really really believed that I had protections on the computer to not allow anyone to access any adult sites-I'm obviously wrong and have spoken to my baby about how wrong these sites are- she says she found them through a link on a site I've told her I don't approve of, but she may look at at her fathers, even though I've told him to look at EVERYTHING she's looking at!!!
I am dying!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This is my BABY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Please give me some advice- Have I sexually abused my baby without knowing?? I feel sick

[kittyboo123]

Thanks everyone for their great advice!!

I have taken everything on board and implemented the suggestions.
My daughter is now very aware that these disgusting images are targeted for men (mostly) with unnatural or very extreme problems. She understands that she should never have looked, but I accept also that curiosity about something you don't understand and have no concept of, often continues to pique curiosity-even in adults (I'm pretty sure that's why some of the men who look at such things develop a habit).  I have spoken honestly and told her that these are not acts of love-but disgusting, filthy images created to make money from people who are sick!!  We have an appointment with her paediatrician this afternoon.  I thought I had a tight reign on what she was accessing but as I found out to late, was it only takes one time!!  My daughter is no longer allowed access to the internet AT ALL!! She now has a laptop with no internet connection and I take the connection out and with me when I am finished-I need this for work-otherwise, I'd get rid of the whole thing!!  We are now going to concentrate on making sure my daughter heals and is SAFE!!  
Thanks all again!!

[agomez333]

You are so right nio I caouldn't agree more.. Well said as well... Images are do hard to get out of your head, especially those images!

[nio]

You really need to talk to you daughter about sex now!! YOu need to explain to her that was she saw is not the way sex was intended to be . When she hears from her mother that sex was intended for couple in love and that it is a clean beautiful act. Because what she has in her head about sex is that it is maybe even scary , dirty , and WRONG . It is wrong when not done in the correct time. She will need to see a counseler because was she has in her head of what she saw will be with her for a very long time . Sorry that your daughter must go through this I too have 3 daughters and because of this comment I have decided not to let them in the computer only with game discs nothing else.

[agomez333]

You really need to talk to her. At 9 yrs old she should know that a site like this is inappropriate. You need to set guidelines and talk about what she did and make sure she knows she did something wrong. She should be held accountable to a certain extent for going to that web site. If she is in public school, computers are not new to her so she should know better. You really need to make sure she understands what she did was wrong and she needs to be help responsible. This is not a 5 or 6 yr old. She is 9 and should know better. She might be your baby, but she is not a baby anymore!!!

[Agiesmom]

I can only imagine how sick you feel. I would talk to her about it--that what she saw is against the law in many states and that the people who are involved in that are very sick, unhealthy, mentally ill, and/or abused people who likely have serious problems with addiction.  Make sure that she knows that what she saw has nothing at all to do with love.  You might want to ask your pediatrician for advice--maybe he/she will suggest a counseling session to evaluate the situation--determine what she saw and how it may affect her.

And lock the computer--she should not have access or be permitted to go onto the internet--and she should not have been on the site you disapprove of either.  Get a computer for her to use for cd rom games or typing papers and don't give her internet access at all.  If she must look up something for school, you can sign onto your computer and SIT RIGHT THERE WITH HER and look it up and print off the info, then sign off so she can't access it again.

Again...talk to her pediatrician and see what he/she suggests.