I need help or advice on how to deal with our children getting along, My husband and I have one daughter whom is 4 years old she is our only child together. From a previous relationship almost 12 or 13 years ago we had just found out that my husband has a son as well we have confirmed with the necessary tests and on December 16, 2008 this son was given to us. His mother has signed him away and just sent him here by plane with only one pair of clothes, no toiletry products and massive emotional issues. Now we have accepted him into our family we have opened our home to him and he has never been nice, he cries if we ask him to do anything like take a shower or brush his teeth, he is very shy, he takes his food and runs to corners to eat it, he starts to sleep on a bed but by 3 or 4am this child moves to the floor always in the kitchen or bath tub mats. he also has extreme skin irritations and we have tried on more then one occasion to get him into the hospital and have met extreme battle with him. Now we have enrolled him here to start school and he is just not having a good time, he doesn't even try a whole day, the school is so helpful and is trying everything to make his stay happy. He does not like to dress for p.e class he hates when girls are around him or near him when he eats. He will not eat at the lunch dining area and takes off most of the time he is starving but its because he won't eat. Another huge problem is our daughter she has accepted him right away and just adores the kid, she offers him toys, she shares her dvd's and even games, she always tries to help him eat and sit with us at the couch but he has taken it all so harsh, he pushes her, he pinches at her and even growls at her sometimes, his dad and I have tried so many things we have even sought out spiritual help, we have sat with family counselors, school counselors, and he just won't budge in the nice area. What can we do or try that will make him be or at the very least PLAY nice with our daughter? We worry about her safety and feel that we can't let them be around each other but how are we all suppose to live if we can't all be around each other, together and not always separated? Please HELP?