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I have a very bright 6 year old daughter that does not seem to get the seriousness of lying and stealing. She has recently tried hard to cover up her stealing candy from her grandmother by spitting out nothing but lies to me and I believed her because I can normally tell when she is lying. I found the candy the next day in my car and asked her if it was hers and where she got it, all she did was pout and cry. I told her that she had to apologize and give it back to her grandma and she was ok with it until we got there and she just through a fit. I don't understand why it is so hard for her to apologize for stealing things from other people but she will apologize to me for bad behavior when she acts out. She knows the consequences of stealing and lying because I have constantly told her about getting in trouble with the police, hurting people's feelings, disrespecting other people's things and punishments. Which include time out, no play time with friends, no tv, etc. I don't k ow what else to do... I'm lost!
I'm a little confused about your family dynamic. Usually, grandmas put out candy for the children to take, of their own free will. "Stealing" candy from Grandma isn't usually an option - they can just freely eat it at Grandma's home.
I just don't get it. I would be surprised if the police, as you say, would be interested in a child taking candy from Grandma's house.
Well, I've heard that children who steal at that age are trying to plug up holes in their hearts with the stolen stuff.
Children who steal and horde food are often very anxious and unsure about where their next meal is coming from/lack a feeling of continuity and security in their lives, but I don't sense she usually steals and hordes food - she did this time - but it doesn't sound from your description that's a pattern.
I went to your profile and your status caught my eye. "...A 25 year old single mother of one 6 year old daughter. I work full time and go to school full time and manage to still have mother/daughter time, because I know how she will get if I don't." It's hard to believe there's much time at all for her - if you work full time AND go to school full time.
Is it possible that you can put some of that busyness on hold for a little while and spend more time with your daughter?
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