My son wants to try girls clothes

[dids800]

While playing doctors with my 6 year old son, he said he would cut off my boobies and keep them in a box. He then said that he would like to try on some girls clothes. While we were talking he said that he might like to be a girl just to see what it was like and because one of the other boys at school wouldn't like him if he were a girl. The boy in question and my son spent time together as toddlers because we as parents were friends. I know my son finds this boy annoying but the other boy is younger and there are no concerns with bullying. My son then asked me if I would buy him some girls clothes to wear. I stalled and said maybe oneday. He is quite clear about what he wants and said that he would only wear them at home because people would laugh if he wore them outside. He has asked me everyday since if I am going to take him shopping for girls clothes. I seperated from my husband 6 months ago, he has anger issues and there have been issues withhis temper and my 2 boys. My 6 year old is youngest. Is this a phase my son is going through or it it something more (rejecting the male role model) Should I get him some dress up clothes or keep stalling and hope it's a passing phase?

[blujay12]

This is most likely a phase. And this does NOT mean that he is transgender, because most people that are transgender as a child don't usually end up transgender in the future. But it could be possible. One thing for sure, I've heard this a million times before in other support message boards based on child behavior. Personally, I don't think that you should let him wear girls' clothing out in public, I think that you should just let him wear unisex clothing out in public & at school. I think that it's fine for him to wear girls' clothes at home though. The clothing thing, I know, can really be a challenge. By the way, this has NOTHING to do with him not having a male role-model nor have you done anything wrong. I'm sure that he might grow out of it by the time he reaches puberty. When his hormones start flying around, attacking his brain, he may become more masculine in terms of personality. I was through this same situation when I was 7-11 yrs old.  After I had my period when I was 11, I all of a sudden, out of the blue, just wanted to wear skinny jeans instead of baggy sweat pants. People change, they really do, and sometimes they don't too much. Let's see what happens. But for the time being, try your best for your son to be himself without getting into too much trouble. Don't discourage him from being who he wants to be. And don't get him into any hormones or anything that will interfere with his normal development, because it's best to wait until after puberty before you make a choice like that. I almost got into that stuff, but the doctors agreed that I was too young. And I'm glad that I didn't get the hormones, it would have been something I would regret for the rest of my life.

[tee3962]

i would stop playing doctor and find another game you two can play. when he ask about girl clothes just tell him NO...it's ok to be his friend but your a parent first.. although his father is not in the picture as often as he should be,you still have to raise him as a male. if that means yall playing football, video games, or set up play dates with other children. my husband is in the military and he's gone five to six days a week, i play soccer, football, even wrestle with my boy. I hope he's just going through a phase.