Seven Year Old Still Having Toilet Issues

[heidleberg]

My seven year old little girl is still having issues wetting her pants and controlling her bowel movements.  We have taken her to a Pediatrician, a Urologist and a Gastroentinologist.  She has had x-rays and was even given I.V.'s to completley clean out her system.  All of them say there is no medical explanation for her problem.  A psychologist recommended we use a reward chart.  She takes pull ups to school and her teacher makes her go to the bathroom every hour.  I still have to come to the school twice a day- at least to clean her up.  Her friends make fun of her and she even does it at other people's homes when we aren't there.  I'm at the end of my rope.  We have punished, bribed, rewarded good days, good hours!  I don't know what to do.  I found out that her father had the same issue until he was sixteen.  He told me that he only stopped because his girlfriend found out and broke up with him.  Some of his younger brothers still do it!  
We have set up a reward system at school and have started IEP's (Individualized Education Plan) to help her.  If she has an accident she misses recess.  No accident and the teacher gives her a sticker on a chart.  One whole day, with stickers every hour, gives her extra computer time- which she loves!  
I know that there has to be some sever issue but I can't find the right Professional to help us.  She also speaks like a two year old- we can understand her but will say things like, "What that is?"  for "What is that".  Things like that.  She still can't wash her own hair and takes nearly ten minutes to dress herself.  She is such a smart beautiful little girl it breaks my heart to see her struggle.  We do not baby her and have expectations but she just doesn't seem to respond.  Any advice would be greatly, greatly appreciated!

[Lonelymom]

Have you thought about her having Asperger Syndrome. It is a type of high functioning Autism and some of the things she is doing is signs of this syndrome. My son has it and on occasions he will still have bowel movements in his pants and wet his pants. He really can't help it. Also he was put into speech class to help him learn to talk. How is she in social situations? Does she get nervous? Does she prefer to play by herself? go to the Aperger Syndrome sight and read some of the posts there.

[lry75]

She is way to old to be in pull up . You ARE babying her by putting them on her. Disgusting all these girls over 5 who are still in diapers.