Too many questions....

[omg25]

I have 3 kids..10 yr old, 8 yr old, and 4 year old..they all ask a bunch of questions..it gets annoying..Is it ok to answer sum and the others tell them that thats enough questions..i tell them just to go with the flow and stop askn questions..i also have borderline personality disorder and i try my best to not snap but sometimes they just wont stop asking questions...are we going to eat..what are we going to eat..what are we doing next and then after that..are any movies coming from netflix..they just keep asking...sometimes i tell my son "do you ever go hungry no right so just wait for dinner"..im sorry but the more question i answer the more they ask..when sometimes i just want them to go with the flow..then i feel that they have too much control..Im the parent...is this not fair???should i just keep answering each question???Or is there a point when you should stop it???

[aid821]

I think it's also worth adding that if the questions get abit much sometimes, put the question back onto them, for example: what do you think? (obviously this question isn't in a rude tone, but posed as a question) what time do we usually have dinner? do the same with the more realistic questions, ask them to answer, this will help them with their thinking skills and how to narrow things down so they come to an answer themselves. This is also good for developing problem solving skills. :)

[wilson49332]

Hi,

As a child social worker, I want to let you know that much of this is normal behavior for children- its how they learn. However, I do agree with hippyfairy, some of this may be related to your children trying to push your buttons as she says, Dont be afraid to 'screen' the questions, and those that seem silly or redundant, let your children know that we answered this- be direct but not rude otherwise they wont want to ask questions at all, and problems will occur.

[hippyfairy]

I believe a child's mind is a wonderful thing  They are constantly learning. And  dreaming in ways we dont. I can see how he questions in your post from them can get very annoying. My son is six and if he ask me something  i tell him once. I dont get on to him if he ask again because maybe he didnt understand or just didnt hear it all. However, when it is mindless questions like the netflix and stuff like that, i would say to answer only once and when they ask you again remind them that you already answered that question and you are not going to repeat it. It sounds to me like they know how your mood reacts sometimes and they are pushing your buttons. Be the parent, dont let them run you over, but be gentle about it. just breath and remember when they are driving you crazy they do it because they know you will go crazy. All children do this. My son has now go to the point we have intelligent conversations and questions, and if he has a crazy off the wall question i dont dismiss it but answer only once. I hope this helps some..Peace