What should be done?

[helpneeded1234]

Recently my grandson (age 7) and my grand daughter (age 5) came for a week long visit.  When my grand daughter went home she told her mother that the grandson asked her to play a game called
"girls and boys pull your panties down party".  My grand daughter says they did not play the game!   We questioned my grandson and he said the girl suggested the game.  I can't honestly tell who is telling the truth.  I did tell his father and he sat him down and explained (after questioning him) that this was inappropriate behavior and was not acceptable, even though he still denied it.  My daughter, however, has went off the deep end and called in social services. This is tearing my family apart.  Can you help advise what I should do as a grandparent and as a parent.  My daughter is mad because I did not think it was necessary to call in social services because nothing happened and we didn't have all the facts.  Please help.

[margypops]

Your daughter over reacted but the facts are it has happened I doubt if they will think it anything than childhood games and  normal silly behavior. As for your family being torn apart trust me this is small fry compared to what some Families go through and it never goes away , so you all need to back off , chill out, let it go . I expect the children have all been freaked out, and wont be going there again with their silly talk .and thats all it was.

[MrsVain]

you are right your daughter was wrong to call social services. however now that it has been done, i couldnt tell you what needs to be done. if they didnt DO ANYTHING then what is the issue. the fact that it was said? WoW. i feel for you and your grand daughter, she probably wont ever tell your daughter anything again. your grandson parents sound like they did the right thing.

good luck, wish i could give you more

[babiegirl70]

It is actually anyone's responsibility to call social services on any suspicion and you are responsible, even if they are not your kids.  I would have a talk with the kids to ask if anyone has played that game with them or if anyone told them to play that game.  I think your daughter did the right thing in contacting social services.  It does not matter if you don't have all the facts.  It is CPS' job to investigate further.  Nothing might have happened at your house, but what if something has happened in the past.  That is the reality.  You have to be careful and protective of children these days because there are a lot of child rapists, sexual abusers, rapists, whatever you want to call them out there.  Even pre-teens are sexually abusing others.