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I have a 7 year old foster son whom still wets the bed at night. For this he wears a pull up. However the problem that concerns me is that he occassionally wets his pants during the day. This will happen both at home and school, and at least once a week on average. When questioned its because he didn't want to stop what he was doing to take time out for the toilet. He could be watching TV, playing video games, crafts at school or playing with friends. I can understand maybe the playing with friends and it getting to excited to want to stop and go use the facilities. However; its the watching TV or playing video games at home and just urinating on himself as well as whatever hes sitting on, the floor, beanbag or sofa that I don't understand. Surely he knows hes peeing on himself. Also he doesn't get up to change until hes told to. We have rewarded and punished by taking away what it was he was doing during the accident (such as if he was playing games during the incident the game is taken away for a short time). We have purchased a special watch that vibrates the wrist to alert him its toilet time and its set for 6 different times throughout the day, as well as remind him verbally to use the toilet. This worked for a very short time, but now we're back to the same ole thing. We don't yell or get angry but this is getting very frustrating. What can be done for this lack of responsibility and self control.
First of all, I commend you for your decision to help a foster child. That is a beautiful thing and takes special people to do it. This child has probably been through a lot in life for his 7 years if he is in foster care. You seem like outstanding people to go to the lengths you have to support and help him. It is certainly frustrating that he is urinating occasionally like this---- even though it sounds fairly infrequent. I would still continue with the watch (cool idea!) and the verbal reminders and keep at it. As the nighttime wetting is still going on (which is not uncommon to go on until 8 or 9 for sound sleepers) and this occasional wetting, I would also mention it to his physician at the next visit. He very well may not get super strong signals that he has to go. I'm sure that he does not enjoy urinating on himself and feels bad on the inside when it happens. Perhaps work with him to stop the pee if he forgets to go and then RUN to the bathroom. Then the damage would be more minimal. He'd have to change his underwear and pants---- but furniture would be saved. My 4 and 5 year old will occasionally forget for a second and a little dribble of pee comes out and then they shout----- I HAVE TO GO POTTY!!!!! and we all get out of their way as they race to finish the job. If they all out just pee--- it is a much bigger mess. Good luck and many blessings to you for the kindness and love you are showing this boy.
My grandson is 7 years old and is doing the same thing as your child. My daughter is very frustrated. We have taken him to the doctor and they say nothing is wrong. We need help because now the school is saying he smells and the children don't want to sit by him. I put him on a pull up this morning, put another one in his book bag and some underwear for him to change. I just don't understand. We need help very bad.
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