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Why does my friend feel the need to correct my son all the time
Ok I have a quick question. How do you feel when people correct your child in front of you. I have an 8 year old son who is really a very good boy, loving and well behaved. Of course like every other kid he has his moments, he's not perfect. So when he acts up I correct him. Out of all of my friends, only one feels the need to correct my son for me , when I'm standing right there and I'm capable of it. Now she loves my son and is very good to him. But, No one else does this because it's not their place. Just as I wouldn't say something to their children unless I was watching them and had the parents permission of course. My friend does this all the time, even when my son isn't doing anything wrong . It's pissing me off. She just became a mom btw for the first time and God forbid you ever do that to her child ever. She is the perfect mom, with the perfect life. Don't get me wrong, she is my oldest and dearest friend, but, this is b.s.. I'm perfectly capable of tending to my child. Has this ever happened to anyone and what should I do. I really don't want this to turn into a fight if I can avoid it..
You've got kind of a weird dynamic going on here, I think. It seems to me in your friendship, your friend perceives herself as the "teacher" and you're the "learner". It would be one thing if she were sort of snappish with him, and grouchy - that would mean he was just irritating to her. But she's not. She is affectionate and loving.
So. In general, in your relationship, has she been the one who is on track, doing things very responsibly, and she's been there to help you out of a lot of sticky situations and has never needed - or asked for - your help in her life?
Some women gravitate to that kind of relationship. They're the giver, and they prefer friends who are in need of help. Makes them feel needed and a little superior.
Also she is affectionate and loving...when she wants to be. I'm always loving to her son. Know don't get me wrong. I'm not saying you should just put my son on a pedestal. I'm not saying that whatsoever. I don't get how you can sometimes be loving, other times not and feel you have authority over me as a mother
Just to play devils advocate and speaking from personal experience, I think you may find that she has very low self esteem. She probably sees that you have a great kid and feels the need to point out any minor faults because it makes her feel better as a parent. I'll bet she may be struggling with parenthood and won't admit this even to herself for quite some time. Hang in there (maybe at a distance) she probably needs you more than you need her.
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