backtalk, bad attitude, etc.

[MicahsMom]

My almost 10-yr old son has been a smart-alec, along with a bad attitude to me for several months now. We can't seem to be together without having constant arguments. He replies with smart remarks ("Do it yourself", etc.) and actions (rolling eyes, loud sighs, etc.) when I ask/tell him to do something - even simple things! He acts as if he should not have any authority and will argue with me until the end! I have spanked and put him on restriction from his favorite things many times, but nothing seems to work. HELP! I feel like I'm losing my mind (and patience).

[margypops]

Dont get into constant arguments , stop before it even gets there,less words, sometimes kids work on the Theory Negative attention is better than no attention  and push the Buttons to get it.Dont go there ,if he starts to be argumentitive walk away , busy your self and let him mutter to himself,thats okay it may be irritating but it doesnt matter.Let him Roll his eyes and Sigh thats okay, dont resort to spanking it has been shown not to work and is a reinforcement of negative behavior, he will do it to others and his own Family as you have shown him its okay.Again the Restriction of favorite things has the same effect, He's trying to be more self confidant, feed it in Positive ways more Sports, is Dad involved let him have more Guy stuff with him more Games and one to one time concentrate on the fun stuff.