can't get diagnoises

I've got a 8 year old daughter who has had development delay since age 2 which means late meeting miles stones,she has cordination difficulty fine motor skills difficulty hypermobilty problems,problem is trying to get some sort of diagnoise as she meets so many of the criteria of adhd asd aspergioues. (Symtoms (symptoms)) talks to heself all the time talks to her toys as if they were real she has lots of fears such as dogs hates when her sister goes out or me or dad she thinks something bad will happen to them has sleep stories about her family getting hurt,constantly copying launguage without knowing meaning whatches same program over again, socialy different from her peers always wants to play with younger kids,very hyper can't sit still constantly on the go. She is seeing pead atm they saying no to adhd and asd but is bein refered to educational pycoligyst, she tends to b different at school but her behaviuor is becoming challenging at home and school any tips would b great x