emotional control

[timnit]

my 8 years old son is born at 30 weeks and born 1.5kg. he dosnt have any medical problem and he is not taking any medacaion.  Recently we are seeing changes in his behaviour like getting upset for no reason, pushing and hitting his brother and his friends at school.  There is no problem at home.  We are worred that is this happaning because he is premature baby and he doesnt know how to control his anger. is their somting that we can do to help him cope this proplem.

[margypops]

How old is his brother is he older or younger than him, could this be some learned behavior, is he the only one at school to have these issues or do the other children fight aswell, , what does he tell you when you ask him questions about his behavior, is something upsetting him you can think of , is he involved in sports and outside activities? Is his Dad involved in doing guy things with him.

[timnit]

his brother is younger than him he is 6.  the other children also fight aswll.   when i ask him about his behavior he knows it is wrong but this is after the fact.  he plays hocky but it is minor leauge no fighting goingon.  dad only plays soccor not guy things with him

[margypops]

Soundsw like you have got to set some bounderied on behavior here, Soccer is good outside activity good for Dad hope he plays it with them a lot, so when he hits the other children take something away he likes, TV PC , he has to know he cannot do it, make sure it is something he cares about and actuyally that even means the sports hid Dad does with him. You are the parent you can correct this ,seperate them up if he is the one causing the fights let him stay by himself in his room .Be consistant so he knows he will be the one doing without when he causes the trouble.