inapropriate father-daugter relationship?

[jsd4a]

My brother in law seems to have an unusually close physical relationship with his 10 year old daughter. They sleep in the same bed with just t-shirts and underwear, lay on the couch and cuddle for long periods, and she constantly sits in his lap. I have seen him both rubbing and grabbing her butt, in very much  the same way that my husband does to me and men do to their female partners. Is there something wrong with this or am I paranoid?

[alinaNjj]

WELL THIS POST REALLY STOOD OUT TO ME BECAUSE AS A CHILD I WAS MOLESTED BY MY FATHER FOR A PERIOD OF 9 YEARS. AND ALOT OF OUR FAMILY MEMBERS WERE CONCERENED ABOUT THE "CLOSE" RELATIONSHIP HE HAD WITH ME, VERY SIMILAR BEHAVIOR. BUT NEVER DID MY FAMILY REPORT IT. THIS WENT ON INTO MY EARLY TEEN YEARS UNTIL I COULDNT TAKE IT ANYMORE AND I TOLD MY SCHOOL COUNSULER. IM NOT SAYING THIS IS WHATS HAPPENING TO YOUR NEICE BUT IF IT IS ITS BEST TO REPORT IT. UNFORTUNATLY IF THE CHILD DENIES THE BEHAVIOR CPS WILL NOT FUTHER PURSUE IT.

[margypops]

In the light of what you have told me then I would say yes the behavior is not good especially  because  of his past ..so I do think you have to speak out about it ., why does your husband in spite of knowing his brothers past think its okay ?  It could be someone in the family molested the brother .,very often the behavior is passed along .

[jsd4a]

This man is my husbands brother, and he is divorced from his daughter's mother. When his daughter was 4,, her mother accused her father of molesting her( which his daughter confirmed), and for the 3 proceeding years he was not allowed to have any contact with his dasughter. After a lengthy courtroom battle, this man was awarded supervised visitation, and now he has her unsupervised every other weekend, the usual arrangement. The allegations were made in the midst oif a heated divorce, and I have never spoken to my nieces mother, so I do not know how credible she is or the evidence-if there was any at all- that supports her claims. I have spoken with my husband about it, and though he is certain that his brother is not molesting his daughter, now of ever, he finds the behavior inappropriate. I hope that helps.

[margypops]

some families do seem more affectionate than others so it may be that ,, what does your sister say if you haven't spoken to her of your concerns then maybe you should do .in fact you can also address them to your BIL ..good luck