is it wrong to not take your kids on vacation with you?

[kitcat2015]

My husband is dead on "it's all family vacations after the baby is born".  Is it wrong to not like this idea?  I was expecting that parents at some point could have a little vacation without their kids?  He was pointing out that we would sacrifice a nicer vacation for the two of us so that we could spend more on a family vacation for our child to make him/her happy.  All I'm saying is that as parents, we're entitled every now and then to enjoy a little bit of a luxury without the child.  We deserve a break too don't we? If we plan a trip to Hawaii, then the child goes with or we don't go at all.  I'm all for planning a wonderful family vacation, but are we not entitled to a little something without the kids around?  Isn't That what grandparents are there for? To help us with a small break once in a while?

[specialmom]

I agree with rockrose.  I'm not interested in vacations away from my kids.  They have only a certain number of years with me and I went on plenty of vacations without kids before and will go on plenty after.  

And agree about vacation dollars---  I'd rather who my kids the world and have wonderful experiences with them than without them.  

I also don't have a bunch of activities for myself each week like leaving my kids to go to book club, bunko or yoga.  I really see this as a finite time in which I get to get to be with them.  Soon enough, I'll have all my free time back and be missing them.  

But everyone is different. It's okay that you feel differently.  The problem is that your husband feels differently from you and you two will have to work that out.  good luck

[RockRose]

kitcat,  this is an individual preference.  I personally don't think taking lavish vacations away from your children is the way I lived.  We occasionally would go to a nearby resort for one night,  and have the grandparents take care of the kids.  I think we did that 4 or 5 times total.  

We also had a few things where my husband went on guy trips,  and I went for a few weekends with women.  

To me, it's not about "making the child happy".  It's about loving being a parent and wanting the child there to experience wonderful places and make lifelong memories.