mumat17

[mumat17]

I have a 7 yr old who has all the signs for ODD (angry , blames others for his actions , very defiant and so on) my doctor and his peadiatrician tell me he is a normal 7 yr old and because he is only like this with me that it is a problem with me not him. I dont know how to help him he is a perfect straight A student no problem there he is perfectly behaved for anyone else he is with except me. Two of his Dads other children suffer with ADHD although I do not think that is the problem I thought it may be relevant. Ijust need some idea of what could be going on please??? My son can not explain why he is angry he just says I dont know.

[consirnedparent]

i think maby your son should go to councling and try to talk to someone abou his anger issues and if that dosen't work maby you should talk to his doctor and ask about adhd and if your son has it.

[nyychic]

ADHD wouldn't concern me at this point as he is a straight A student this would be difficult for him to keep up without help if he had ADHD,  I dont' know if this is your first child or not but here is my thought.  When kids go off to school they feel like they have to be good in a way.  They don't want to be laughed at.  How are his relationships with his peers?  Is he a loner, does he get picked on, is he popular.  It's hard to look at this honestly we all want our children to have lots of friends etc.  Is something going on with the teacher?  another student?  Mothers are the safe havens for children.  We take the fall when things don't go their way.  If they have a bad day at school they are going to be miserable to us.  Why?  We love them, we gave them life why do we get the nasty behavior that is caused by someone else HURTING our childs feelings when what we really want to do, and be honest all of of you moms, is go and rip the little brat to shreads that hurt our babies feelings.  The answer to the why is that children know that they can be mean and miserable to mommy and we still love them, no matter what.  But if Billy on the playground  makes him mad and he socks him one maybe Billy will never like him again and maybe the other kids won't either because they like Billy?  All of these things go through our little ones heads.  Maybe it's not that but a little counsel can't hurt.  Good luck.

[mumat17]

Thank you for your help that really helped me. he is popular at school but he has issues with other people in his life mainly his dad because he now has more kids to someone else and mine dont get any time alone with him but he knows when he comes home I am there to listen to him no matter what because him his brother and sister are my life. So anyway thanks i believe he is angry bout things he cant control and too protective of me and everyone else maybe his is just growing up to quick and having to deal with to much???