my child talks TOO MUCH

[tripplebright]

I don't think my 6 yr old Daughter, has ADHD, but I think she just may be Hyper, She has been talking excessivly from the age of 2 till now, but now it's worse!!  In the morning, she Pops up, and starts talking about random things, for example I woke her up this morning and said "Wake up it's time for school"- she popped opened her eyes and said "Mommy did you graduate college?", It begins and ends this way everyday and though I find some things cute and humorous, It stops being cute after about 10 mins of non-stop chatter, and since I know it's going to be like this every day I just get frustrated with it quickly. Most people would just think it's cute, and when she was 2,  it was, people stopped me everywhere because of my "precocious", little girl, who was so well spoken. The thing is she sleeps heavily and well, (and talks in her sleep on occasion), she plays well, by herself for hours at times, and still talks the whole time, which leads me to beleive she may not be ADD. Everyone has always told me she's so smart but she is falling behind in school, she always needs to sit away from other children, she is distracted by, and distracts others, she is Bossy with other children, Which worries me that kids wont want to be her friend, Iv'e already overheard a child say "Oh no She's here".  But the biggest problem Now Is when we run into people, maby someone with a dog, she Talks So Furiously that you can't hear anything else, and she says things like " you wanna come over to our house"  to strangers, and it puts me in awkward situatons all the time, to where I don't want to take her anywhere, cause I don't want to have to talk to all those people, and I couldn't get a word in if I wanted to.    At Home when my husband and I try to talk, she talks over us so badly that we just lose it somtimes and scream "Shut Up"(I hate that, I don't want to get that frustated, and teach her, that it's ok to just lose it and act that way)  when we watch a movie, we usually have to stop it several times, to try, futilely to quiet her, we've learned to use the sub-titles now. she's obnoxiously social, people don't think it's cute anymore and because she's so invasive they just get annoyed with her, :(  
I am so FRUSTRATED with this situation, I LOVE my girl and I know she is sooo special, but if I can't get her to do nothing more than just, * slow down her talking*,   I may go Insane!!  

---I know to some people think this may sound harsh on my part, but keep in mind everyone deals with things differently, and put in the same situation others would most likley feel the same, Her Teachers do!
so please don't post about how Horrible I sound, I already know!!!!

[pfowle]

I have the same problem here.  My youngest daughter (12) doesn't stop talking.  She HAS to say the last words, w/me, sister, and dad.  Tonight was i was turning off her fan.  "It's too chilly tonight (NH). but i need it on, im hot.  no fan.  over and over, she's too hot, and this is why.......i need fan to breathe, i don't like covers, i get hot during the night, my room is stuffy, over and over.  then i go to take the fan out and she says it drowns out sounds to her, so i give in and let her keep her fan but not facing towards her.  and then it starts all over again and saying let me talk, my turn, for another 8 minutes.  finally she either has the fan turned or NO fan.  i go out of room and not even 5 minutes later she's telling me that she needs the fan to be facing her because her cat has fur and the cat likes the fan on her cuz she gets hot.   I finally had to tell her NO very harshly.
I have need to remember to use short words (YES/NO) only.  If i tell why, how, what or when about something she goes on and on until i get mad.

She was dx w/ ADHD/OCD/Aspergers and epilepsy( resolved).  She has been recently moved to a new school for Alternative Ed (w/in same school district).  Last school took me 3 years to get her out of.  over 40 demerits in less than 2yrs for things like excessive talking, talking out of turn, hugging friends, going to the bathroom.  Finally went above principle's head right to superintendent and school board.  She is thriving in the new school, has her 1st boyfriend and a new best friend.  (been 2 weeks).

[myheartspring]

Thank God I found someone who posted something containing more than just pessimistic commiseration!  I refuse to feel sorry for myself or my daughter, obviously we are not unique...

Reading post after post of nothing but complaints by frustrated parents of kids who won't stop talking had me feeling hopeless for a minute there.  I wasn't finding any positive suggestions or helpful things to try and I started thinking, wow this is a common problem with no solution...none of these posts come with a silver lining more less a happy ending.

I will try applying the same techniques you are using with your son.  I'm willing to give anything a shot at this point, within reason.  I think that ADD is an over used diagnosis.  I think true cases exist but not commonly.  I'd have to wake up with my kid standing over my bed with a knife before I'd consider medication.  My 1st grader won't stop talking in class and it's escalated into an issue much bigger than I ever imagined it would.  It started in Kinder, it goes on at home til she's on my last nerve, and now that she's getting older it's a serious problem.  She's super smart.  They put her in a 1st-2nd combo class and I was so proud, but here we are only two weeks into the school year and she's been disciplined four times in writing - which I have been asked to sign and return to the teacher.  I attribute it to poor impulse control and problems with delayed satisfaction, or at least from what I've come up with in my lay-mom's research... The things I've tried are the norm I guess and they don't seem to work for any of us according to what I've just read here... But I'm grateful to have come across your particular story because you've offered a fresh take on approaching this discouraging predicament.  I'll try almost anything.  

Thank you so much for sharing.  I've got some things I can at least try, and that is encouraging.

[Kat0830]

Please consider talking to a Pediatric Neurologist regarding OCD. We were told by our son's first grade teacher that he may have Autism because he talked all the time and is very intelligent which was not at all the case. You can Google "OCD and excessive talking". You will probably be as surprised as we were. Good luck to all if you. We feel your pain. Prayers!

[vintagegirl78]

I read your story and it was as if you were speaking about my 8 year old daughter. She is always chattering, interrupting, talking over others and getting mad when no one listens. I get to the point daily when I need quiet time from her, because she just talks so much. But since she was the age of 2 her pediatrician said she has a lack of impulse control not ADHD, we even had her tested later. She just cant control her talking, or need to talk. Although she does excellent in school, top of her class in all areas. Home is her weak spot. Therapy seems to help her understand where/what  she needs to work on. Since the advise isn't coming from me she seems to go with it a whole lot easier too.

[specialmom]

Hi.  You really can't say anything to her parents because it doesn't come from a place of concern but from a place of irritation.  They'll become defensive because of what you feel in your heart.  They'll come out of their denial when their daughter is hurting enough to say that they need to help her with her social skills.  

Family is one of those 'safe places' for kids with quirks.  But it doesn't always work out that way.  

Hopefully she will figure out social nuances and be able to mix and mingle in the near future.  I always feel bad for kids like that that everyone (including their aunt) just finds them annoying.  good luck to all

[Meryl123]

My niece is 12 and has been an talking excessively since she was 2.  The cousins and other relatives cringe when she is coming over because she is LOUD and won't let anyone have a conversation with another person.  She spent the past few days with us.  There were 4 adults, 1 teenager and her little sister who is 8.  Everyone was fed up with her nonstop butting in and always having to put her two cents in.  She did not get the social cues and subtle hints that we wanted to talk to someone other than her and she got very dramatic with crying and running into the bathroom for attention.  It ruined the entire weekend and was very embarassing in front of our company.  We counted down the seconds until she left.  I am writing this because her parents are in complete denial that this child needs help.  She has no friends at school and is slowly alienating herself from the family.  How can we tell her parents that this behavior is becoming a serious problem without hurting feelings? I do not want to be around her anymore.