same sex relationships

My partner's children visit their newly married mother and I wonder how intimidating, misunderstanding, accepting, influential this is in their future life and own partners. She has now married another woman. The boys 10 and 11 see her kissing, caressing, hugging, sleeping in the same bed as her new 'wife'. Can they become confused about themselves, she has had gay men also stay over on the couch. Should she curb her behaviour. She has explained that it is quite acceptable to have someone of the same sex as a partner. How confused can the children become? They are too young to fully understand the implications of eg sex. Can they be easily led into a life where they choose gay men, especially if encouraged by their mother. They told me that one of them would choose a girlfriend and the other said he was not bothered. Can you comment on the situation please. They only visit their mother for a couple of weeks per year. Their father has residency. Can children be easily influenced at an early age?

[Ortarx]

Being homosexual is something that they either will or will not be.  The fact that their mother is does not mean that they will be.  IF however either mother or father is telling them they HAVE to be one way or the other that is probably going to be a conflict.  Boys have a natural stigma against being gay because it is seen as unmasculine.  They can be influenced but as far as that goes there is a lot of things that can happen.  Influence is influence it happens everywhere and every day.  They will make up their own minds reguardless of anything.  I wouldent worry and most of all if one or both ends up gay for whatever reason you may not understand it but be as accepting as you can be.

[sporrin]

Thanks for the reassurance.  We have not told the kids to be one way or the other.  It was scary when she had gay men stay over at her house.  I know the men probably would not touch the boys but they may seem them as tempting when they become a little older.  I know our views on this but don't know whether the mother would be protective or encouraging them when this does happen.  Scary thought.