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My six year old son has suddenly begun to talk about sex. A lot. He says that he thinks about kissing girls in his class as well as adults. He thinks about "sex" with girls, too, but I think his definition of sex is "making out".He also talks about the word "sex" itself, asking if it is a bad word, or making up words with sex in it. He also says that his peepee gets big when he is watching TV and sees somone kissing. I honestly do not know how to respond to him when he brings this up. I usually just change the channel or tell him that he his silly, laugh and walk away. Is his behavior normal? How should I respond? Help!
I am not sure how he learned the words. We do not go around saying "sex" or "making out". I suppose he learned them where it's available to anyone. Everywhere you look. Even on kids channels you see teens talking about kissing adn making out. It's available to learn about no matter how little it's talked about at home. As far as being around other kids, he's fine. He does not try to kiss or touch other children. His interaction with other kids is perfectly normal. He has been talking about things like this for the last few weeks.
Six is a bit young to understand the term 'sex' but with commercials incessantly touting 'Erectile Dysfunction' medicines I'm not surprised.
I chased girls like crazy starting in kindergarten and have loved them ever since. I don't think it's a big deal unless he's being exposed to these issues vis-a-vis an older classmate or relative.
I have three girls and they like to pretend they're making out with me just like they do in Disney movies. It bothers me but they're just being kids. My girls also spend a lot of time touching themselves which is completely natural for kids to do.
We can't associate adult perception of sexuality on kids who don't know better. What we can do is teach them about their bodies and what separates them from the other sex.
Rain is very right (what a great dad you must be!)
I think you need to talk to him about it, not as an adult but as a child. Educate him that he has a penis and is a boy (which I'm sure he already knows), and it's ok to feel that way but the word sex is a private word between two people who love each other like mommies and daddies.
I mean if you dont, he may end up, although being a child, doing something like exposing himself to other children - not that it means he's bad but do you know what I mean? Teach him that his privates are just that - private and that it's normal to feel that way and ok to talk to mommy or daddy about it.
And to zzzzzzzz take Rain's response to heart - your son isn't doing it to be disgusting he probably did think it was funny. They don't percieve their parts like we do as adults - talk to him about it and tell him that it's not appropriate to do that to people even though he thinks it's funny. You do need to address that - but don't make him feel bad or ashamed you have to explain it in way he will understand.
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