what to do about a 7yr

[miss_onederful]

i need to kno shall i get counseling or psychological treatment for my 7 yr old son

me & his dad broke up after a 7 yr relationship(he was 5) ever since then he has been throws temper tantrums and has been failing in school.& all he says is i want u and my daddy to get back together.

School... he fails his tests he doesnt listen to the teachers and he disrupts the others
he doesnt even list in activities classes such as art & music....but he loves gym...when he gets home he does his h.w. even though i have to ask him...he also hides or doesnt bring his hw home...

home...he gets mad when i ask him to clean his room or take out trash he calls his sister names and he just like to look at tv and play games

i take all his things away he likes i make him read books and i punish him....but it doenst work its to the point where he tries to out swmart me.....ex...when he knows he misbehaved in school he'll say "i kno no tv no game eat take a bath and go to bed!...

i've tried all yelled spanked nothing works...so as of now i sent him to dad for a couple of months to see how it works...i asked him who he rather be with he said his dad....but i think its more to it...i sat him down and asked him what was the matter(even though he wants us back together) he'll shrug his shoulders and say nothing...

CAN YOU PLEASE HELP ME OUT WITH THIS IM IN NEED OF HELLLPPP!

[aid821]

Hi, yes i do think you should get some counselling for your son, like you've said, you've tried everything you possibly could such as taking things off him, discipline, sitting him down and talking to him etc. A break up is a hard thing for a person of any age to go through, let alone a child and there are obviously things he can't work out or doesn't understand in his head and therefore can't concentrate at school or plays up.

Another thing to consider too is although he wants to be his dad (because he's the boy and connects with him), boys also like the comfort a mother provides aswell. In other words he'd probably not dealing with the situation well. Best to see someone as these unresolved feelings can sometimes manifest themselves leading to depression etc in adolescence. All the best :)