i dont know how to handle the situation

so im 20 and i just found out im 8 weeks pregnant.  my boyfriend of 6 years wants me to get an abortion and i refuse to do it. he thinks it will be better for us in the long run but i dont see it. i have wanted a baby and now that im pregnant i cant stop thinking about it. i would like some advice please

[Carly1306]

You don't have to do anything that you don't want to do. Obviously he has a say in the matter because he helped conceive the baby, but at the same time, it's your body so so do you. You really need to sit down with him and talk it through. Tell him exactly how you're feeling and try see why he really doesn't want his baby. You guys have been together a long time, so you obviously have something good, maybe he's just scared that a baby will change all that?

[imonly20]

he feels that it is already putting a strain on our relationship. he dont think we can afford it cause we r still young. but our parents will help but he dont want help. we have a good relationahip and i think that he does think that it might come between us. im emotionaly ready but he gets mad because he doant understand y i want a baby at 20. but we didnt take ne precutions on not getting pregnant

[margypops]

I think that you will be the one having an abortion and its something you will always regret ..if you dont want to keep the child ,best have him/her adopted many good folks wanting children .Good luck I think your gut is telling you something , this is your baby if he doesnt want it he doesnt have to have it ...you do ...

[soon2bmamma]

If its a financial thing, just think, if you wait until you can afford a child, you will never have one, college, clothes, food, misc expenses, medical no one will ever be financially "ready". A friend of mine put that in my head & it really made sense to me, somehow we all manage to make ends meet :) if you want this baby have it, dad will come on board eventually :) congrats

[margypops]

Men dont always know what abortion means ...trust me you will regret it ...forever

[runnergirl868]

Im going to be 21yrs old and 8weeks pregnant at first when i found out he thought about abortion....but when we talked to his dad(hes going to be 61 or 62 and has health issues) he is still estatic about it because its his first grandchild out of his only son. But after the talking and we are keeping it...even the thought of an abortion can make you re-think your morals about it...and since then the first time i found out i talked to every about it and support about our decision. My mom says the same thing about not everyone is finantially set on a baby...i know we areny but keep your head up and try to see what your communtiy has for jobs...good luck