Fed up

My son refuses to stay away from girls. We tell him he can have friends, and hang out , but he wants to date them, kiss them , and that sort of thing that older teens do. My son is only 14 and has already had over 8 girlfriends. Of course we do not approve. He does all this while at school. He for some reason won't continue to like the same girl for more than a week. It is not appropriate  behavior for our christian lifestyle, nor is it appropriate for his moral health, or could lead to sex and disease . I don't know why he does this. I have asked, I have begged, I have tried to help him , I don't know where I am going wrong.

[babygirl6152]

I am a strong Christian woman and you are actually fighting a losing battle..... these are not real girlfriends- at school this is just something the kiddos go thru and it has nothing to do with an immoral lifestyle. Could you perhaps find a way to compromise?  during his school/free time.

Does that mean you can't set rules to be obeyed? Of course not- but I would suggest it be something that all of you can live with-  Give him something to look forward to - even if it is twice a year. I took my son and his "girlfriend" in 8th grade to see the Nutcracker Ballet at Christmas time- they can have supervised visits with parents present.....
Maybe in the Spring do something similar.... guess what.... as you said when you go to the Nutcracker next year- it will be with a new girl.....

Once you have set firm boundaries as to the sexual part of the relationship- you can just expect he will OBEY that.....
and that disobeying you would be disobeying God."

"And now a word to you parents. Don't keep on scolding and nagging your children, making them angry and resentful. Rather, bring them up with the loving discipline the Lord himself approves, with suggestions and godly advice." (Ephesians 6:4 TLB)


It is what your boy has to go thru in order to be a man- at least he is not attracted to other men- Celebrate that he is growing up normally.

[Cherie762]

baby girl nailed this one, I think hes a normal 14 yo boy, when they think they are dating in school, I mean really Ive been throught this they may pass notes in the hall or write stuff on their folders, maybe even hold hands, but whats to worry about thats all innocent ,bgirl is right the more you tell him no the more hes gonna resent, hes just at that age where hes breakig away from being a little boy, Im betting you gave him the right tools to do it, trust him, give him a chance, showing him you have confidence in him will boost your relationship dramatically and he will be more open tot talking to you in return, it sounds like your great parents,

[Danny_R]

Your sons an average 14 year old boy, this is exactualy the age you should expect him doing this sort of thing. He will proabably see enough of it around him (T.V, films, media ect.) He will grow out of it, and dont worrie, it wont lead to sex and diesease as you so gracefully put it. He will more the lickely grow out of it and get involved in sport. If he is going through girls as fast as you say, they will soon become less interested in him than the other way round!

Hope that helps.

[Kage_no_Taren]

Dating and kissing are totally appropriate at his age.  Look at it this way, you want him to be able to negotiate the emotional aspects of a relationship long before he is going to have sex, so that he will know how to communicate and interpret other people's behavior. Think of it as practice for more serious relationships later on, and  just try to stay informed.  Being pretty involved is still ok, but he should be dating if he wants to; let him get his worst mistakes behind him while you still have some ability to control his activities.  

[247932]

when  kids that age go on a date DONT be supervising them r  u crazy thel watch a  romanic play hug and mby kiss and then ull bud in  an say noway well i say yes way