My son just turned 18 in Feb. he graduates on June 6th, He has been disrespectful and lying and hard to handle for the past several years, 2 weeks ago my husband and I got into and arguement with him about taking the trash out before school and he got mad and walked out. He has since moved in with a friend and his parents. He is leaving for the basic training for the Army in July. These parents are aiding my child in what is is doing and not helping him, I don't understand how these parents would not reach out and find out say I have your child he is okay and is it okay for him to stay or something but believe what he is "spilling" to them. And in turn is the mother is calling him her child on his facebook page. Knowing that we are talking and that I will see it because we are still having a Graduation party for him on Sat due to all the announcements and invitations have gone out and flights have been made. I just don't know how to handle this it is hurtful and this lady has to be stopped as well. I also have to spend another year around her as her son is only a JR. and my daughter in in band with him also.
Has anything changed? My heart is crying every night as I am going through this with my daughter who just turned 18. Please let me know what your doing now 5 months later. I am ready to kick my daughter out of the house.
Has anything changed? My heart is crying every night as I am going through this with my daughter who just turned 18. Please let me know what your doing now 5 months later. I am ready to kick my daughter out of the house.
I'm so devastated. I have a 15 year old son and he is out of control; angry, defiant, oppositional and smoking pot. I've done EVERYTHING to help him I can think of. I had to call the police on him two weeks ago as he was scaring me and being violent in the home; not with us, but with possessions. The police are useless. They basically treated me like I was in the wrong. Saying in a sarcastic tone "what do you want US to do? Give him a ticket?" Ummmm...no. Tickets aren't going to help. I was lucky enough to get him into the local mental health hospital for help. Six days he spent there. He was so angry, but came around and was doing great. He was put on some medication for his moods and we saw a vast improvement very quickly. He is in day treatment now for three hours a day, Monday through Friday. We go to family counseling. I went to bat for him at school and made sure everything was taken care of for his return. At family counseling last night I found out he's still smoking pot and says he doesn't see anything wrong with it. "It's a plant", he says. If he doesn't get his way, he swears at me, says he will leave, clenches his fists. I'm am sick and tired of living in fear every single day. My heart is breaking, I cry constantly, but not only is he ruining his life, he's ruining mine! I tell him I love him more than anything in this world. He just texted me telling me he is going to his friends house after school. I said no as I can't trust him right now and, of course, he went crazy and said many colorful things to me. He said he is going no matter what. He is 6'2", so people that say just go there and drag him home don't know what they are talking about. He's not a little kid anymore. He towers over me. I just keep thinking "I'm done. I'm done", yet every parental instinct in me says I can't be. How can I be? But, what more can I do?!? As of this very moment, I am considering refusing to pick him up tonight if he wants to come home. He threatens to drop out of school constantly, so maybe it's time to say have at it. Get a job and get an apartment and good luck. I'm overwhelmed, defeated and miserable. I love this kid more than anything in this world and now I have to make a decision that goes against every fiber in my being.
My 16 year old daughter is doing the same thing she left last Tuesday this is the first time she has been gone this long but there's nothing I can do she won't talk to us and the cops say to just let her go. It's hard but she knows the rules here and when she wants to come home she needs to follow them or figure it out herself. She thinks she knows everything. My question is are we still responsible if she does something wrong?