When is it ok?

To a parent of a teenager when is it ok for a teenager to start...Having a sex life. I mean I have slutty friands and they started having sex at 14 but I know that isn't an appropriatte age. So an appropriatte age would be...?

[crabby70]

People will say when you are married...I wish that... but I will say when you are an adult 18...

[margypops]

Definatly when there is a good ,ongoing  relationship and preferably over 18, othwise you are right and girls get the **** label, at 14 its only to have a boyfriend but the boys have a giggle and discuss it a lot with each other  would you really want that?Best to save it for some one special !

[April2]

I don't think teenagers are ever ready to have sex, although I know they'd disagree with me! They just don't have the emotional maturity to handle something that big. I've only seen bad outcomes for those who cave in to sex too early. It can be emotionally devestating to the one left behind after the bf/gf decides to leave. I think this is especially hard on the girl.
We know now that the teen brain isn't even fully developed until they are in their early to mid twenties. I just don't think they are ready to make such a big step. Call me old-fashioned, but it is supposed to be something special between two people who love each other. It's a sharing of yourself that should never be taken lightly. Sex has become cheapened and even made to be dirty when it never was meant to be that.
I know it can be hard when the hormones are raging, etc., but I do believe teens can focus their energy on other positive things and learn self-control. Learning self-control is something we all have to do. We can't just cave in to our desires all the time or we just might go out and smash somebody's face in that upsets us, lol. Self-control is a good thing for all of us to learn so that we can contribute to society and be good citizens. Unfortunately, self-control also appears to be not practiced as much now days, which is why I believe that we are seeing more violence and bad manners. That all falls into self-control, including being able to say "No". Don't cave in to peer pressure! You will be glad when you don't and learn to stand on your own two feet and can make good choices. Be strong! Be a trend setter. Believe in something or you will fall for anything.
I do speak from experience, not only in my own life but in the lives of those I care about. You can take it or leave it, it's your choice. I hope you make the wisest choice.I don't think you'll ever regret it.

[RockRose]

When you're an adult,  and on a reliable birth control - meaning,  the pill.

And in love.  Young women need to wait until they are in love,  and their guy is in love with them - as in,  he blushes when he sees her,  and he trembles and loses composure when they are making out.  

Wait for love,  and use good birth control.

[jesslee83]

i'm confused....if you're pregnant, why has this come up? have you not been able to tell your parents yet? or are you worried about what others will think?

[margypops]

whose pregnant/

[Liberty7]

I am not asking for me I am asking for my sibling's I wanna know when my parent's will be able to let go of them.After i got pregnant my parent's have really clinged to my sibling's so i just wanna know.