Child Rage.

[SMILES1919]

My Four YO son has always been extremely physical, running, jumping, all of that.  He's had his share of Broken bones already.  He is also very inpatient.  He throws a fit if he can't do something right and really well the first time he tries.  We have to calm him down quite often to get him to practice something he really wants to do.  Lately (the last month)  he has been throwing fits the second he doesn't get what he wants, for the dumbest things i might add like not being able to say the prayer for dinner, or not getting to be the first one in the car. We discipline him everytime he throws even the smallest fit with a time out.  Its not sinking in.    I am wondering if this is a sign for Hyperactivity or if it is his way of getting attention even though it is negative.  I know he is not attention deficit.  He learns really quickly and pays attention to everything.  Maybe we have just spoiled him.  I am having a really hard time knowing how to discipline, becasue his fits last a long time and i can't speak to him or teach him when he is so upset.  Please help any advice would be appreciated.  

[jayncandi]

Sounds alot like what we have been dealing with my four year old son.  He has recently been diagnosed with ADHD and we have started him on medication.  He has NEVER been inattentive and has always been a great learner and has an amazing memory but not all ADHD children have issues with attention.  It would be worth looking into.

I always said I would NEVER medicate my child, but I really got to the end of what I knew to try.  He was so unreasonable that any attempt at correction fell on deaf ears.  No matter how consistant I was or what I tried, all seemed to fail.  I started to really beat my self up about how bad a mom I was that I could not control my child.  Turns out my child cannot control himself.  We now meet with a psychologist to work on some behavior modification techniques and have him taking a low dose of ADHD meds.  The change has been AMAZING!!  He still has all of his bad habits and his generally spunky personality, but now we can talk to him.  He is finally reasonable.  When we do correct him, he is apologetic and we see a genuine effort being made to change that behavior.  It has made all of the differance in our lives.  Now I am no longer afraid to be in public with him, and most of all, now I can love and enjoy him more completely.

I will be praying for your family and hope that you can find the answers that will fit for your son.