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20493671 tn?1499266102

My 4 year old granddaughter

My granddaughter is just like this. She sneaks out of the house in the night so additional locks have been added. She climbs out windows pushing the screens out. Fixed that. She beats her 1 year old sister.  In the middle of the night she climbs on counters and tries to reach thing on top of the fridge. Clothes thrown everywhere from a basket left to be folded in the morning. She does nothing slow getting dressed is done so fast her head goes in arm holes undies same way wrong holes clothes inside out or backwards. It's nothing for her to push someone down and take a toy from them. Her daddy gets home and he gives her a good hour of his attention just for her. The minute he touches her sister her anger gets worse because all eyes aren't in her. I just after 8 months got her potty trained. 2 days ago she was playing in the yard while I was watering the garden in under a minute she had pulled a whole section of my fl9wers out when asked why. With a big smile said because you told me not to. She has toys taken, she gets time out or put in her room  I slap a nice firm smack on the back of her hand and tell her no. I talk calm asking and telling her to put her dish in the sink by the 4th time I am angery and raise my voice. Her reaction sit cry until it's done for her. I went to my grandfather's funeral in 24hrs I came home to a house the if cps was called the 2 girls would be taken away. Which is the reason they are here in the first place. Because of thier mom. I raised both of them for 6 months with some problems but nothing like it is now.  Thier dad my son is also living here but he works 65 hours a week and saving for a place for him and the kids to live. I'm so lost and angery up set and just bitter to the point my husband stays away from our home.. but just her words of her doing because we tell her not too or because she wants too.is driving me insane. From the moment she wakes up she never walks  in the house or anywhere for that matter it's run run run. She trips over her own feet more often then not. When she eats she refuses to eat with dishes or utensils she dumps all foods on the floors and shovels everything in her mouth using her whole fist. She also loves to pretend she can't do something the minute daddy gets home even though she will do it all day long. Btw this this is the good side of her. Her nick name from me as sarcastic as it is is repeat.  She repeats everything you tell her always in the form of a question no matter what it is. And she keeps repeating it until she is done doing what ever it is.
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973741 tn?1342342773
Sounds like a handful.  Sometimes kids with a trauma such as an issue with their mother that results in lost custody can cause acting out.  Talk to her doctor.  Perhaps a counselor is needed.  She may also have something neurological going on.  She may need additional help. Not having a parent there is going to be part of the problem.  You are grandma and doing your best but losing mom and then having dad too busy for you will definitely cause acting out and issues accepting other people's boundaries.  I would continue to provide a stable and secure environment with loving boundaries.  What do you do when she does this wrong behavior?  What forms of behavior modification are in place?  And do catch her doing the right thing and praise her.  When will she start school?  Has she been to any type of formal school type of place such as preschool, day care or sunday school?
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20493671 tn?1499266102
I should mention. She is number 9 out of my 10 grandkids
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It sounds like she needs to be evaluated.  At the very end of your post,  you mention she repeats things,  which sounds like she has echolalia.  Can you call her pediatrician and ask for a referral to a specialist?

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