Son wants to be held constantly, throws tantrums and wont sleep.
My girlfriend has a son who is about 19 months old. He is very clingy to his mother which we attribute to insecurity issues resulting from her divorce from the father who has some issues of his own. Sometimes (most days) he wants to be held all the time and will go in to a screaming fit whenever he is put down. She is very small, about 105 lbs and he is very big for his age so she simply cannot hold him at all time, not to mention that she needs to set him down to cook and clean, at which point he will simply go in to a screaming tantrum. We have tried distracting him with foods or toys he likes, playing with him, watching videos, and even ignoring him out right when there's nothing else we can do. We can keep him busy and happy for a wile, but as soon as he decides he wants his mom to hold him, its impossible to put him down and the rest of the day is an endless tantrum.
Bed time is an even bigger problem. Sometimes he will go to bed easily enough, but he never stays asleep for more than a couple hours. He wakes up 4-6 times a night, and comes to her bedroom door and starts crying. She only recently started putting him in his own room at night, but it was the same problem when he was in her room. She gets up 4-6 times a night for 15-20 minutes to get him back to sleep. Recently she has tried ignoring him, because sometimes he will just go back to his room on his own, close the door behind himself and go to sleep without to much fuss, but usually he will just scream and cry and scream some more unless she puts him back in bed and sit with him until he goes to sleep. She catches cold easily as it is and hasn't been able get nearly enough sleep in so long. She's always getting sick and simply can no longer handle the physical, mental, or emotional distress. Last night she absolutely broke down. She actually mentioned adoption and erupted in to tears and just started balling. Ive known her for 7 years. She's been through some tough times, but in all those years I've never known her to cry over anything and I just can't stand to see her like this. She is such a strong person but she is at her breaking point. Help us!
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