10 years old girl

[concuabo98]

I have a 10 years daughter  old ever since she's been in 5th grade
She suddenly behaves differently.She does not want to go to school
anymore she complain about some stomatch pain nausaus.....
It seems she try to avoid school.We took her to the doctor several times
and they couldn't find any problems we also try to help her out if there is
any problems at her school please give us some advised how to encourage her
and help her out
Thank you

[momtofourboys]

I know this sounds stupid, but how is she doing as far as learning and comprehending what is being taught to her.
My now 10 year old was actually hitting me, kicking me, and crying so hard when he was 71/2 and I would make deals with him to get him out of school early just to make him stop. I thought there was a learning issue however school said no that all kids reverse letter and spell as they hear it. (we kept him back in first grade because of this) the school MOST of the staff said it was emotional since my new born required a lot of medical attention (he has cardiac and respiratory issues) and hubby was in an motorcycle accident and I have tumors throughout my body) so they blamed it on emotional and sent out the high school psychologist. she started to talk to me and I showed her his school work, she said OMG this ppor child is dyslexic. after doing several test to rule things out they finally concluded he was. and after getting him the help he so mich needed, he did a complete turn around and loves school. he felt stupid and didn't like that his so called firends were always looking at his school work and laughing.
Good luck and I hope you can find some answers soon for her sake
Michelle

[palsgal]

5th grade is really trying on kids.  You may want to watch for symptoms of potential problems that could just be starting to show themselves.  It could be anything from the kids intimidating her at school, teachers saying inappropriate things that scare or make her feel bad, lack of control in the classroom that makes it too loud, ........   It can also be things such as anxiety based disorders that are starting to affect her - problem is - she wouldn't understand why she feels the way she does.  She could also be going through a bit of seperation anxiety.  My experience has been that this is the beginning of the tougher years of school.  Until now there is not much pressure.  It seems that 5th grade is the start of disruptions, teachers not babying them along, unruly kids in the classroom, kids talking about subjects your daughter may be uncomfortable with.  Try to remember if see if she says something that sounds unordinary for her or if she complains more about one class than the other, tell her storie about growing up and the teacher yelling, maybe she will say something in agreement that can give you insight.  It sounds so simple but there is nothing simple about it - they don't understand their feelings and have a hard time conveying what they are feeling to you.  Good Luck!

[sweetpea03]

It sounds like it's a psychological problem. She's made herself so upset that it has become physical. It could be a number of problems, like friend problems, problems with a teacher or other adult there, etc. She could also be overwhelmed with school and just doesn't want to go. Try and talked to her about it, have her write it down so it's easier for her to say, or have her talk to someone else she trusts.

good luck.

[KLA33]

I would try to find out if she is fearful of one of her teachers or any children at school. When I was in grammar school I had severe headachs and I missed a lot of school. My mother took me to doctors, had xrays etc. Finally, she asked me if there was something at school that was bothering me and I told her about the one teacher who was verbally abusive to me and others. She talked to the administration, the abuse stopped and my headaches went away.

My first grader also had the stomach ache problem. We had the school psychologist do a work up and we got the problem solved. So you could try that also.  Good luck.