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1613542 tn?1366468543

Uncircumcised 11months old but hole too small for head to come out?

I was recently given temporary custody of 11 month old little boy. He is on medicaid and they no longer pay for circumcisions. However the opening of his foreskin is too small to be pulled back and I am concerned about infections. I am planning on taking him to his doctor and seeing what they will do. In the meantime I was wondering if anyone else has heard of or had this problem and what was done. I have his parents permission to have him circumcised if necessary. The part of the head that I can see looks purplish so I have been putting and ointment called staph a septic on a q-tip and pulling the foreskin over it to clean and treat it. Any advice would be appreciated.
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1613542 tn?1366468543
We have almost adopted before. We got burned badly. Since then our thought are that if they really want better for their child then they will just sign the papers that money should not really be involved. Children should never be for sale to the highest bidder. I would pay for the lawyers fees but not the parents. There is a program here in Mo called STARS that you can adopt foster children that we have checked into that maybe possible in the future. I had really bad health in the past but since being diagnosed in Feb. with a thyroid disease things are looking up.  We are just getting ready to sign the papers on our home hopefully (the owner just went to the hospital). Who knows what the future will bring maybe kids are in there somewhere maybe not. We have 17 soon to be 19 nieces and nephews so there are kids everywhere we look lol, that is not even counting our friends kids. If you know of any other ways that are reliable I would be interested in any of that info. Thanks.

Sissie
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I'm glad to see that you are helping this little boy as his parent's can't do so. I also was just wondering if you have looked into regular adoption(of another child) for yourself? I have seen that you wrote about loving children, but can't have your own. There are a number of ways to adopt a child and there are many who need homes.
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1613542 tn?1366468543
You are welcome. I am the same way. I go off on strangers if I see them not doing their kids right. I wish his mom would let us adopt him and I know it will be hard if not impossible when they come to take him back. I only hope that when they do they are sober. I tried to push for longer on the papers but it was a no go for now. She is supposed to be sentenced to 6-9 months and I don't know what the dad is going to do. I don't know if he is still going to rehab or not. I just hope they took me seriously when I told them that I would only give him back to sober parents. If not I will use all the pull I have to make sure the kids get taken care of. I need all the luck I can get lol.

Sissie
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535822 tn?1443976780
Thank you for the background I appreciate that as many times we are concerned for children, I am glad you have told us his story and I can see you have his welfare at heart ..good luck  ..
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1613542 tn?1366468543
Thank you both I am going to follow the advice in the post above as it is exactly the advice in the link I found. I have not been forcing his foreskin back I would never be that cruel and am a big chicken when seeing any child in pain. It will be bad enough when I take him to get his shots caught up. The spinal injuries don't make it easy. I have to be extra vigilant as to where he is and what he is doing. As for the bending and picking up I am finally getting used to it so it is not as hard as it was. I also have a awesome outside support system. Help is literally a minuet away. I can not say that if he had any other choice I would still have taken him. It was me or foster care. The foster care in our area has had a lot of problems with neglect and child abuse.Most of these foster parents just want the check. I am in no way saying that all of them are like that. I am hoping to become a foster parent in the future. I think a little background may help you understand.

The baby is my brothers ex wife's youngest. Her daughter that we thought was my brothers daughter is with her grandma. No one in either of the baby's family would take him. His parents are drug addicts and living at the creek. I was originally asked to watch him for a month until the father could get set up in rehab ( 30 day program) and he was then supposed to have housing for himself and the baby in a rehab program. His mother was supposed to go to jail on a probation violation but her court date was set back to the 15. They are both still at the creek. When they brought him here all he had was the clothes on his back and enough formula for three bottles. All he was ever in was a car seat or his playpen and given a bottle.<--- his grandmothers exact words. He is now pulling himself up on furniture and walking back and forth along it, up to running in his walker and demands food ,real food. He has went from eating one small jar of 2nd stage baby food a day(Monday) to eating a quarter banana and cereal, a jar for lunch and one large jar of 3rd stage food plus a couple bites of dessert a day. I had his parents sign custody papers that end in January. I would take him in a heart beat but his mom wouldn't because she would loose her food stamps ect. I guess we will just take it one day at a time and as long as I have him do the best I can. Thank you both again.

Sissie
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535822 tn?1443976780
I think you should take the advice here bigsissie for this babies sake , do you manage okay with the baby I see on your profile it says you have spinal injuries .,
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134578 tn?1693250592
Here is another reference.

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"The American Academy of Pediatrics advises not to pull back the foreskin for any reason, and even goes to say that the older practice of swabbing underneath the foreskin with a Q-Tip shouldn't be done either. Simply wipe the outside of the genitals when changing diapers and wash the outside with whatever bath methods you use. Pulling back the foreskin could cause serious damage or infection, among other possible problems."

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Apparently trying to force the skin back, especially before somewhere between 3 and 5 years old, is risking damage, as the foreskin has not fully separated from the glans penis yet.  So go with the doctor's advice.
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535822 tn?1443976780
I see you have a spinal injuries , do you manage with this child okay ?
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1613542 tn?1366468543
Thank you AnnieBrooke. Because of what you said I did some research and here is the link I found. http://www.drgreene.com/qa/cleaning-penis-intact-foreskin?pagination=show   I have dealt with several uncircumcised boys before of various ages and had been told to pull the skin back with each diaper change and put antibiotic ointment on it and never had the problem that this one has. The head is no longer purple (it looked almost like a blood blister) So the ointment worked on that but I should not have used a q-tip. I plan on following the guidelines in the link but I am going to ask the doctor what to do about the purplish color to see if that is and infection. He had spent two weeks at a creek before I got him so I think there could have been some type of bacterial infection. Hopefully the doctor can get us in next week. Thank you both.

Sissie
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134578 tn?1693250592
I think you should not be able to pull a foreskin back at 11 months.  Seems I've read it does not pull back fully until something like three or four years old.  Don't be pulling on it, you might hurt the child.  See a doctor to see if the head is actually a normal color.  You might be treating him with a staph ointment for nothing, and could cause an unnecessary reaction to the ointment.
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535822 tn?1443976780
I think it would be best before you do much more is to speak to the doctor . he will know exactly how to deal with it ..Good luck
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