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I am researching for my wife.  She has pop so bad that she doesn't even want to go anywhere.  She says its too uncomfortable.  I researched and found out about pessaries.  She said her doctor said they haven't worked out too well.  He cited infections, inflammation, etc.  I guess the only other option is surgery.  She has an adversion to surgery (don't we all), and doesn't seem to think it's a big problem.  She is just laying around, reading, watching TV, and going to the bathroom and pushing it back up.  I told her she can't go through life with her organs hanging out.  I think she is just blocking and doesn't want to face it.  Any recommendations?