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I'm having a hard time with this new parent thing. Everything I do my boyfriend makes me feel like I'm not doing it right. He has two older kids and keeps using the "I already raised 2 kids, I know" crap on me. It's making me feel like a failure. Tonight I wanted many girl to start sleeping in her crib and he argued she'd sleep better in the swing :/ and that giving her table food to try at 1 month is ok cause he did it with his other 2 kids and they're fine -.- I just want to take her and run away and not tell him where we are. I say one thing and he always says I'm wrong cause I'm a new.mom :(
No solid/table food and no blankets to sleep with just yet. Don't pay him any mind. I think the crib is better than the swing.
You know what's best for her & should do what u think is best. The crib is the best place for baby to sleep. Try to stay positive. You seem to be doing great. I was excited to see u post over here cuz u always seem really knowledgeable!
Have confidence in yourself and your ability as a mom. Most of what he has been saying is okay is wrong and you are right. It is best if she sleeps in her crib. Its what's safest for her. In the state I live it is not allowed to leave a child sleeping in anything other than a crib because of safety concerns.
You put thing he should be helping you instead of picking a fight, and he definitely don't know as much as he thinks he does, lol good luck firefly he will straighten out
I'm tryin to get her into her crib before I go back to work. The swing was helpful at first but now that I'm pretty healed I can bend down in her crib to get her. The crib is her bed, not the swing lol
Aw man im worried about the same thing.. im also eorried that my bfs mom will be trying to put her two cents into everything. just try to ignore him. Its your baby and it doesnt take a rockrt scientist to figure out how to care for a baby. all kids are different, just because something worked for his other kids doesnt mean its going to work for this baby. it sounds to me like you are trying to get the baby into the habit of sleeping in her crib which is the right thing to do. you are the mommy so do things your way!
We got into it tonight cause I want her to start sleeping in her crib and he tried to put her in the swing. So I took her out, swaddled her, and placed her in her crib. He then got mad cause that's the easy way to get her to sleep -.- for someone with 2 kids already, how do I seem to know more than he does? Like changing her for instance. You DO NOT wipe a girl from back to front. That spreads germs. He told me he did it with his daughter and since she didn't get an infection our daughter won't -.- he's just so sure of himself. I feel like I know more than he does. Babies are fed solid no younger than 4 months and that's if the baby is ready. Most is 6 months. It's 105 F here. She does not need a million blankets on her to sleep. A sleeper is just fine. It's driving me nuts!
Don;t listen to him, just because he has two children already doesn;t mean that he knows it all. Hayleigh is better sleeping in her crib than in the swing, otherwise she is going to start getting used to the fact she basically gets rocked to sleep, then it's a nightmare to do the transition when she grows out of the swing. Fair enough let her get sleepy in the swing, but she should ideally be in her crib to sleep. It;s a lot safer as well, and she would more than likely start to get sore if in her swing for long periods of time. Mr was in his cot at 4w because he was so fidgety and outgrew his moses basket lenghtways but he was incredibly fidgety and slept so much better once in his cot. Giving her table food is definitely not ok, her tummy is so tiny, and she wouldn';t really be able to handle digesting the food. Dunno about America but here they recommend baby is 6 months before you start with a little food, or if needed earlier, no earlier than 17w as their digestive systems are more mature at that age. Most "table food" is too high in salt etc for them and risks kidney damage / failure. A lot of the recommended foods for starting off are veg mashed or pureed down. And please don;t do sit ups, for vaginal births, exercise is recommended 6w after baby arrives, but for most C-Sections, it's 12w - I was told I wasn't allowed to do anything other than walking or swimming after my section until I got the all-clear at 12w, and definitely no abdominal exercises like sit ups til 12w at the earliest - its not just that scar you see on the outside, there are 9 layers of stitches inside you as well. I'm 16w pp now and started boxing circuits 2 weeks ago and the instructor knows I've had a section, everyone is doing their abdominal exercises and he adapting them for me so I don't strain myself too much - they're so gentle at the moment and I'm still tender the day after. Besides sit ups are the last thing you want to do - you wanna build your lower tummy muscles up first - lie on your back and suck your belly button in, hold for 10 seconds and out again - this helps strengthen your lower tummy muscles - sit ups won't tone your stomach so soon after a baby and won;t be effective unless your lower tummy muscles are built, I got a leaflet from the Midwives in the hospital about it when I was in x
Oh lord girl, you should not be worried about that baby weight just yet. Your uterus is shrinking slowly so the swelling goes down with it. There's no speeding up that process, i tried lol. I looked great after 3 months, it's keeping it off that's the hard part. As for parenting, most people say that it comes natural, but not for me. I asked everyone questions all the time. That's how we mommys get so smart. Boys stay dumb cause they never ask questions lol. All you really need right now is just know how to feed, change, bathe, and burp. Then when you are healed you can start learning all the other stuff. No mommy is perfect, but to our babies we are. Babies don't judge. =) I completely understand the frustration you are going through though. Everything will get better soon, I promise. =)
Dats right wat Nhoyt321 said keep doing wat u doing.. remember us moms knows best when it comes to our babies :-)
He really thinks he's a know it all. I even said I can't wait to be able to exercise and lose the baby wait but my doctor told me to wait til 6 weeks cause I had a c section and my boyfriend told me I should start doing sit ups now. I haven't been more that 10 feet from her since the second she wad born and somehow I dont know what I'm doing? Idk it just *****.
Awww I'm sorry girl! Sounds like he's being a "know it all" or trying to impress you in his own strange way lol. Regardless of his other two kids, this one is yours, so you know what's best! You are definitely not a failure hun! I always read your posts and see what you write to others and you sound very wise and put together. You can do this! We are all here for you. We'll read your frustration, your happiness, your questions, and we'll be right there along with you! =)
Keep doing what your doing. Your not doing anything wrong. And the swing thing ya its more soothing but when it comes down to it crib is best. If u keep doing the swing baby will get use to it then u will have to keep doing it and eventually they are gonna out grow the swing. Plus its not as safe. My boyfriend use to bounce our son to sleep and he is almost 2 and when he is fussy its the only way to get him to sleep because that is what he is use to. I refuse to do it and told my boyfriend he shouldn't have done it back when he started lol.
Tell him that he hasn't been a mom and wont be so to let you be a mom. Be the mom you want to be and tell him to hush you have birth to her and to leave you be.
Every parent is different.. I would just ignore him i know its kinda hard to but ur barely learning things just like he did at one point.. Men are somewhat complicated :)
Sorry to hear that. I feel like he's taking away your new mommy experience :( I think you should just block him out and do what you feel is right for your baby. Let him know you appreciate his advice but you want to figure it out on your own and you'll ask him for help if you need it!
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