Want a baby

[barney27]

Me and my partner have been together for 6.5 years. 17 months ago we agreed to try for a baby. I am 27 and he is 9 years on.
It's been 17 months now since I stopped my contraceptive however since this time my partner has become too tired for sex, he has no sex drive apparently and Rarely is intimate with me. This has left me feeling inadequate like I'm fat or ugly or something!!
He has three children already but has always known the way I feel about children and that I have always wanted the. He says I am impatient- is 17 months impatient?! I have suggested if he feels so tired to make a doctors appointment because he shouldn't be feeling so tired.

Am I a complete idiot!?!?!?

[barney27]

Iv had so many chats and heart to hearts with him that he is now telling me how much I 'go on' and apparently i talk of the same things 'over and over'.
I have even told him to be honest if he doesn't want any more children. Told him it's unfair for me to wait around and I even said it would take me time (years) to find another partner and get to a point of having a baby and that he shouldn't hold me back! He doesn't seem to say a lot other than he wants a child

[specialmom]

Hm. Do you think your partner really wants another child?  I only ask because the being too tired for sex started once you were TTC, right?  That sounds like a passive aggressive way to get out of another baby hon.  I'd have a heart to heart with him.  hugs