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trying to have a baby

hey im 18 and ive been trying to have a baby for about a year now
and i havent got any good news. ive been folloming my cycle and
my fertile days. its starting to get very upseting. is there any one who
had the same problem then after a while finally concived. if so can you tell
me what you did and how long it took. thank you.
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I'm sorry but I have been reading some of your comments and I don't agree. I am 20 years old with a son that I love dearly. I made it threw high school and half of college with him. I am not on welfare and we live a rather damn good life. His father and I are still together. All I have to say is just because we are young does not make us any less of a parent. Do I wish I waited? Yes but I don't regret anything. So why don't you take your negative comments somewhere else.
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I was 18 when i fell pregnant with fiance had him at 19,  we was trying for just over a year, he was working n paying rent n me at college, my son is now 15 months im 20 now, and still with my fiance (3 n half years now) and am 15 weeks pregnant with second, if u feel ur ready n u r fully supported just try not to even think about making a baby, as soon as me n partner forgot n gave up i fell pregnant, everyones dif, took me aprox 15 months fall preg with my son, n a year later i fell preg.againbbut miscarried, n 4 months later fell preg again n now 15b weeks, hope this helps hun xx
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Im 18 and i think that if its the right time and you know it is... my aunty symbia is great example of this... she had her first child at our age and she has 5 kids now... nurse and has all that she could want 5 beautiful children a husband who loves and helps her with everything
And she is a nurse... she was able to get her nd while pregnant and going back and forth to school and home.
But she could have had her nd ling time ago but ahe decided to takr some time off for herself to figure out what she actually wanted to do
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3828469 tn?1358462325
Sorry to burst anyone's bubble but no don't do it! Ur not even married u don't even know if ur relationship will work and the chances of welfare and trying to get child support out of your no longer fiance are eminent. I can't stand that my tax dollars go to young girls like this when they can't even afford to have a baby! You expect everything to work out and fall into place when in reality hard working people are paying for you and your kids! Please reconsider the baby thing for a while and don't contribute to the decay of this nation thanks!
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3508723 tn?1348087395
I am also 18 and am trying to have a baby and I am also having trouble. I would also like to find out a way to conceve....... If some one could help me that would be great. Thanks :)
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Hello, i just turned 19 last saturday. I have been trying since april of 2012 (18 years old at the time) with ny fiance. I too have not been sucessful and it get more and more upsetting every month that i am not pregnant. I know the feeling <3 i have been charting mu cervical position, firmness and fluid (fluid is the most inportant one). You will want to check your cervix and it should be high, soft and open as well as have egg white cervical fluid when you are ovulation. I have also began trying ovulation predictor tests. I bought a box of 7 from CVS pharmacy and its was only $20. You check the box based on how long your normal cycle is and begin testing when it says. When it comes up positive, you should ovulate 24-48 hours after that. You should aldo avoid drinking/smoking and eat healthy and work out. All of this helps as you as the healthier you are the more chance you have iof getting preg. I on the other hand have problems with ovarian cysts making me not ovulate regularly. If it comtinues i would advise you to make an appoint with your gyno/obgyn. Maybe they can test you to see if anything is wrong.
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OMG you guys let her be. If she wants to get pregnant let her, it's her life, she wont be the first or last. I'm just asking you to be 100% sure :) ..anyhow, regarding your question there ovulation sticks, calendars that can help. Avoid smoking from both parties. Also do research, there are certain foods that might help. Just keep trying, it requires patience remember that every woman is different. If nothing works I would suggest to go get tested. Good luck :) hope I helped
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1134902 tn?1296066144
I agree with everyone else, it's just not meant to be right now.  I too wanted to get preggo when I was younger, but it never happened until I was 23 which happened to be a time where we were more stable.  Your body knows what it can handle and ATM it's telling you with the stresses of school etc a baby isn't possible.  On the other hand a doctor won't do fertility tests until you have been trying unsuccessfully for 2 years.
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ok i think its really funny how noone truly and your question they just all kinda lectured you lmao but i guess they are older and know what they are talking about. as a baby does change a lot of things but waterer in any case you feel that you are ready then go ahead. and keep trying. a lot of women do not get there first positive result until sometimes 8yrs after trying and then you have the women who are lucky and get it on their first try. so i would say just have fun and enjoy having sex with your fiance try not to think to much about it and if gods ready to bless you then he will.
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Ok I think you should wait try getting married first and and finishing your education start saving and mature some more and maybe u can consider kids in the future you still have time your young. Make an adult decision be wise not another statistic.
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770551 tn?1305578901
Yeah, I'd never seen a really bad parent up until that point and it was really shocking.  If I had used that language my mom would have kicked my but into next week.  I still haven't gotten over that the child was 5.  What sort of life did this kid have to have all this hate and anger at "5"!
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she laughed??? are you serious? i would have been putting bars of soap in my kids mouths if i knew they were using that sort of language!!
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770551 tn?1305578901
When I told their mom about the names he called me she just laughed so i just got the hell out of dodge.
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did you ask their parents who tina was and ....if she was still alive????
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770551 tn?1305578901
OMG this post has turned so funny.  I'm so sad I just found it.  Pregnancy was my answer to shaving.  All the stretch marks made most of my PH fall out. LOL  My husband and I waited 5 years after we were married to have kids and it was a good choice for us.  I was 25 when my daughter was born and 28 with my son.  We had time to get to know each other and get to know ourselves.  I know it's kind of old fashioned but wait until your ready to make a commitment to each other before you commit to having a child.  You're children will not be children forever and when they are grown your partner will still be your partner (Unless you are looking at this relationship as temporary which opens a whole new can of worms).  Get to know him inside and out.  You are not wasting time not having children until your older,Your making the time when you have them more rich.  You say your ready for kids now.  What is going to change about that in the next few years except you'll be more ready.  You have time.
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730826 tn?1317943334
I was seriously in tears. I sat there, put a little folded up blanket on the floor and made him sit there till he was picked up. I also tried to get him to come to the neighbors to borrow a plunger and he screamed and screamed. Even when he was sitting on the floor, he would be kicking his sister and being a pain. Not only was he not disciplined at home, but he wasn't played with and got no attention. At 3 years old, he couldnt tell me how old he was, he didnt know any colors, no numbers, he didnt know what grass was or leaves, he would even say "its going to rain" everyday even when there wasnt a cloud in sight!

Id laugh if it wasnt me but I was ready to leave him outside for the whole day. People tend to look down on people disciplining kids that arent theirs.
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184674 tn?1360860493
Omg, I laughed so hard the whole way through reading your last post about the babysitting! I can't even imagine an experience like that!
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I get paid that an hour for cleaning someone elses house!  And it dont talk back! lol

I think what everyone is trying to say, that as rewarding and enjoyable as it can be at times to have children, they are not toys. They are not dolls. We owe them more than a passing thought when trying to conveive.  And the older they get, the worse it can be too, just different issues is all.
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730826 tn?1317943334
Uggh. I was babysitting this 3 year old who refused to let me change his diaper, and wouldnt stay on the potty. His diaper leaked all over my couch (I mean every inch of the seat part was soaked) then I put him on the toilet so I could clean up the mess. He got off and peed and pooped on the floor. I SCREAMED! When I asked him why he did it, he said he wanted to. I was so mad. I made him clean it up. He used to much toilet paper so it woudl clog the toilet so  told him not to flush it repeatedly, even as he was reaching for the flusher, and he still flushed it. My bathroom flooded...twice! I sent him down stairs so I could clean the flood and while I did, he dumped his sisters bottle of milk all over her and my dog. Aaaand I had no towels left from cleaning up the flood so I couldnt bath either of them. That was my last day babysitting. (there was 2 kids full time and one before and after school for 10 hours a day and I got paid $35 a DAY! Not freakin worth it)
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my guys are BEYOND stubborn. if we tell them no, they laugh and LOOK AT US while they do what we told them not to do. i feel like i'm going insane most days. and this morning when i was putting brett down for his nap....he somehow got a rash. NO IDEA where it came from or what it is. luckily he isn't scratching or running a fever but it's so baffling.
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145992 tn?1341345074
I just want one day without having to scream at my son for something.  The stubborness drives me nuts.  I miss the days when I could just watch tv and relax.  Not anymore.  I feel sometimes like I'm losing my mind...lol.
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Wouldn't you just love to give them ours for a day or two. My 2 lovely boys, that apparently have decided that they will not get along at home at all. Every 5 minutes I hear screaming, so I give it minute, you know maybe just maybe they will give it rest, nope my youngest is a pincher and biter he grew out of it and now he is back at it full force. You tell him no he bites, you tell him time out he bites, you carry him up the steps to room for timeout he pinches. Then once in room and I am down stairs he comes down after a few minutes apoligizes and he is so sorry and not even 5 min. later same routine. What in the world do I have to do to get him to quit he doesn't do this anywhere else but my house and only to his brother. I know for sure that after a day with my two no one would want kids atleast not two boys anyway.
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145992 tn?1341345074
Because teenagers don't ever think their relationship will ever end. They think these relationships will last forever but don't get that a baby can add stress to the best relationships. They
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Oh my gosh I remember the colic nights, I didn't think I would make it both of mine had it. Mine are now alsmost 3 and 5 and I still have to get up with the youngest everynite atleast twice. I get about 3 hrs of sleep. 5 if I am lucky and it has been that way for the past 5 yrs. now. You know how bad your body and mind go on that many hrs every day for 5 yrs. Oh yeah and has anyone else done this went to the store and then came home and around when the kids are off to bed you realize you have no milk, or no diapers. I have had to get to kids up and clothed I don't know how many times to go out in the middle of the nite to get the items I needed. I think that is the thing I miss the most about being married is having a hubby to go out in the middle of the nite for you.

Even after divorce I still fite every with my ex over parenting. It is never ending. We are total opposites when it comes to raising a child. He is just stupid. He thinks a child should go to bed when they want and then up whenever, eat whatever, heck why brush teeth we don't need em right.

I mean seriously why do teenagers want kids at this age. Its easy to play house totally different when its the real deal.
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