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AF Showed its UGLY Face! :(
Well, after being 4 days late, my af finally came :( I really thought we did it this month. Well here goes for ttc month #3. Better luck next time.
Wow, thanks krissyy. You are really a sweetheart. Its nice to have women like you to talk to. You all are great. Good luck to you all. Hope this upcoming New Year brings joy and happiness for everyone. ***BABY DUST***
god will give you your miracle. there are so many women that have babies that aren't grateful and don't want them... you are a woman in a stable relationship with loads of love in her heart--god will find the perfect time to give you your little bundle of joy. i have faith in that.
oh, thats ok. Please dont apologize. This is just a learning experience, ya know. I just have to ignore what people say or do. No one will ever know what you went thru, other than women who have gone thru it. I appreciate your support.
I hope I am able to conceive again. Nothing will make me happier. Now that things are more stabilized in my life, i hope God gives me a miracle. And also a miracle to you all as well.
I hope I am able to conceive again. Nothing will make me happier. Now that things are more stabilized in my life, i hope God gives me a miracle. And also a miracle to you all as well.
i am so sorry! i don't think i realized just how much you had gone thru and how recently. my heart goes out to you.
i'm sorry i really thought this was my month too but it wasnt well maybe this will be our month. lets keep trying.
Of course, it is only natural to have those feelings. Your biggest fear is having another miscarriage. And the fact is, it can happen again. But, all we can do is be strong, and think positive. Our time will come, and i hope if I do conceive again, i will have a happy and healthy child. Thanks!
Well, your mom can believe as she wants, but it won't change the facts, your feelings. I'm not trying to disrespect her by saying any of this... I'm just a very blunt person (I hate beating around the bush!). Anyway, people used to tell my mother-in-law she should abort her third child (he's now my husband). She looked someone right in the face and said, "Do you want to sit in my bedroom and tell my husband and I what we should do?" It's really no one's business when you have babies.
I really hope you get pregnant soon! Just use all the information you see here about CM, BBT so you know when you're ovulating and try to get pregnant again. It's not to REPLACE the baby you lost. It's to help you move forward, to not be stuck in this emotional rut! However, there are a whole new set of emotions when you become pregnant after a loss. Fear, worry, paranoia, guilt... so be prepared that that will happen!
I really hope you get pregnant soon! Just use all the information you see here about CM, BBT so you know when you're ovulating and try to get pregnant again. It's not to REPLACE the baby you lost. It's to help you move forward, to not be stuck in this emotional rut! However, there are a whole new set of emotions when you become pregnant after a loss. Fear, worry, paranoia, guilt... so be prepared that that will happen!
Thanks njeosys for your comforting words. I really appreciate that. Its really nice to know that you are not alone. I know many women go thru it, and although its very unfortunate, it also a bit therapeutic to talk about it to other women that have gone thru the same thing. Usually, people like my mom and best friend have never gone thru such a thing, and will never know how emotionally and mentally f'd up we feel. Every day that passes i get a little better. My husband is a great support, and is looking forward to this upcoming month. Thanks again. In a way, i was feeling terrible for resenting my best friend, almost hating her. And every time she talked about her baby, it constantly reminded me of what i lost. There was a point where i found myself avoided her calls. I know its rotten, but damn it, i dont want to sit there and talk about her baby. And i would think she would have a bit more consideration, and maybe one conversation talk about work, or something totally different. If it was the other way around, i wouldnt dare talk about my pregnancy knowing my best friend just miscarried, ya know. I kind of told her in a nice way, that it kind of bothers me to talk about her baby all the time when i am still trying to recover the loss of mine. She totally understood. In no way do i want to take away from her happiness, but she has to realize that i am still very fragile right now, and in time i will get over it. And i know that i cant avoid baby conversation forever. I mean there are babies all around us. If its not family, its friends, or a friend of a friend who is preggo. Cant avoid that. Just got to deal with it. But, i am slowly getting better. Thinking, that it happened for a reason. Thankful it happend when i was only 8 weeks versus 12 or more, or even having a still birth. I send my heart to those women who go thru that. That must be 100x worse that what i went thru. So, things will get better in time, and you are right, no one should tell you how to feel. EVER. How ever long it takes. My mom doesnt think that it is at all better if i get pf right away. She tells me, how can you try to have a baby when you are still not over the one you lost? I told her that by having another baby, it will give me some kind of closure, knowing i was able to conceive again. Every month that passes, and you get your period, you start to think, WHY? Is there something wrong with my body? and you blame yourself. By having another baby, it will kind of give you some comfort and relief you were able to conceive again. She will never understand. But its ice to have forums like this where we all can relate, and be helpful towards one another. You all give me support to move on, and for that i am forever grateful Thank you!
It's not selfish to want babies. It's NORMAL! Women are built and designed to want children, to care and nurture them, raise them, etc. Don't listen to your mom in that regard. You have every right to be upset that you lost a baby. Don't let anyone minimize your grief, even your momma!
I was preg. with my sis-in-law, due just a week apart. I had to deal with a lot of feelings toward her. It was like I was internally blaming her, hating her, etc. When I became pregnant again, after my m/c, my feelings slowly changed. My nephew is now a year old and I don't look at him and think of "what might have been." So I think becoming pregnant again is very helpful and therapeutic and NOT AT ALL SELFISH!
I was really afraid that when my nephew was born that I would despise him, or at least feel hurt, and then I'd beat myself up mentally for thinking such things about a baby. But you are messed up emotionally and mentally after a loss, I know that now.
I remember when she announced that they were having a boy... we were at Ruby Tuesdays and I immediately lost my appetite, my heart started racing, and my stomach was tied in knots so badly that I couldn't eat anything else. Because I had thought the baby I lost was a boy.
Just because you lost a baby once doesn't mean it'll happen again. Usually low progesterone or a genetic abnormality caused by a defective sperm or egg is to blame. If it was low prog. then you can get supplements.
I was preg. with my sis-in-law, due just a week apart. I had to deal with a lot of feelings toward her. It was like I was internally blaming her, hating her, etc. When I became pregnant again, after my m/c, my feelings slowly changed. My nephew is now a year old and I don't look at him and think of "what might have been." So I think becoming pregnant again is very helpful and therapeutic and NOT AT ALL SELFISH!
I was really afraid that when my nephew was born that I would despise him, or at least feel hurt, and then I'd beat myself up mentally for thinking such things about a baby. But you are messed up emotionally and mentally after a loss, I know that now.
I remember when she announced that they were having a boy... we were at Ruby Tuesdays and I immediately lost my appetite, my heart started racing, and my stomach was tied in knots so badly that I couldn't eat anything else. Because I had thought the baby I lost was a boy.
Just because you lost a baby once doesn't mean it'll happen again. Usually low progesterone or a genetic abnormality caused by a defective sperm or egg is to blame. If it was low prog. then you can get supplements.
Yeah, what the heck happened? I only submitted my post one time. I guess there was a malfunction...hehehe
I hope things go better this month. Ever since my m/c i have had a hard time moving on, and i feel that by only gaining some closure is to get pregnant again. Is that selfish of me? My mom tells me to move on, and it only happened two months ago. I am sad all the time, my facial expressions and moods tell it all. Even when i try to hide it. I have been ttc since, and with every cycle that shows up, it just sends me right into depression again. What do i do? Is this normal? I have a hard time talking to someone about it. Either they have never gone thru it, or i just feel like i am repeating my self over and over again. I dont want anyone to get frustrated with me because i talk about it all the time. I dont know what else to do. I think what makes it harder for me is by best friend is preggo. Funny thing is we got pregnant almost the same time. She is 5 1/2 months now, i would of been 5. I know i should be happy for her, but its hard to be especially when you were once pregnant. and it seems that every time she talks about her pregnancy, it just brings me right back to feeling upset. Its not fair. I have been thru so much the past 5 years. Hubby was in the marines, and barely saw him. I was all alone in NC. Our relationship has been like a rollercoaster, almost divorced, we were in and out of jobs for a while. Now that things have gotten better for us, found out we were pg, then BAM, we lose our child. It seems our luck is just horrible. How does one recover from a loss like this? Sorry for the long post, just feeling a little down. Would love to talk to someone who has been thru something similar.
I hope things go better this month. Ever since my m/c i have had a hard time moving on, and i feel that by only gaining some closure is to get pregnant again. Is that selfish of me? My mom tells me to move on, and it only happened two months ago. I am sad all the time, my facial expressions and moods tell it all. Even when i try to hide it. I have been ttc since, and with every cycle that shows up, it just sends me right into depression again. What do i do? Is this normal? I have a hard time talking to someone about it. Either they have never gone thru it, or i just feel like i am repeating my self over and over again. I dont want anyone to get frustrated with me because i talk about it all the time. I dont know what else to do. I think what makes it harder for me is by best friend is preggo. Funny thing is we got pregnant almost the same time. She is 5 1/2 months now, i would of been 5. I know i should be happy for her, but its hard to be especially when you were once pregnant. and it seems that every time she talks about her pregnancy, it just brings me right back to feeling upset. Its not fair. I have been thru so much the past 5 years. Hubby was in the marines, and barely saw him. I was all alone in NC. Our relationship has been like a rollercoaster, almost divorced, we were in and out of jobs for a while. Now that things have gotten better for us, found out we were pg, then BAM, we lose our child. It seems our luck is just horrible. How does one recover from a loss like this? Sorry for the long post, just feeling a little down. Would love to talk to someone who has been thru something similar.
Whoa... was the board malfunctioning? LOL!
Sometimes it takes women a little "getting to know" our bodies before conception happens. You'll do just fine!
Sometimes it takes women a little "getting to know" our bodies before conception happens. You'll do just fine!
definitely chart! i think that is part of the reason that it didn't take me too terribly long to conceive... i also recommend the book "taking charge of your fertility." i found it soooo helpful! 3rd time was a charm to me, so i hope it is a charm to you as well :-) please keep me updated!
I really thought i was pg too. Yup, goes to show you that your body can play some mean tricks on you.
And yes, it is heavy, not spotting. I am so upset, but there is always next month. I hope 3rd time is the charm. This time i am going to chart everything. My temps, cervical position, CM, etc. I probably O'd late. Didnt chart it right or something. Hopefully now with me charting right when my af starts, it can better predict my ovulation. I hope i get it right this time. I wish all of you luck too. Hopefully this coming month is OUR month! BABY DUST TO ALL!!!!!
And yes, it is heavy, not spotting. I am so upset, but there is always next month. I hope 3rd time is the charm. This time i am going to chart everything. My temps, cervical position, CM, etc. I probably O'd late. Didnt chart it right or something. Hopefully now with me charting right when my af starts, it can better predict my ovulation. I hope i get it right this time. I wish all of you luck too. Hopefully this coming month is OUR month! BABY DUST TO ALL!!!!!
I really thought i was pg too. Yup, goes to show you that your body can play some mean tricks on you.
And yes, it is heavy, not spotting. I am so upset, but there is always next month. I hope 3rd time is the charm. This time i am going to chart everything. My temps, cervical position, CM, etc. I probably O'd late. Didnt chart it right or something. Hopefully now with me charting right when my af starts, it can better predict my ovulation. I hope i get it right this time. I wish all of you luck too. Hopefully this coming month is OUR month! BABY DUST TO ALL!!!!!
And yes, it is heavy, not spotting. I am so upset, but there is always next month. I hope 3rd time is the charm. This time i am going to chart everything. My temps, cervical position, CM, etc. I probably O'd late. Didnt chart it right or something. Hopefully now with me charting right when my af starts, it can better predict my ovulation. I hope i get it right this time. I wish all of you luck too. Hopefully this coming month is OUR month! BABY DUST TO ALL!!!!!
I really thought i was pg too. Yup, goes to show you that your body can play some mean tricks on you.
And yes, it is heavy, not spotting. I am so upset, but there is always next month. I hope 3rd time is the charm. This time i am going to chart everything. My temps, cervical position, CM, etc. I probably O'd late. Didnt chart it right or something. Hopefully now with me charting right when my af starts, it can better predict my ovulation. I hope i get it right this time. I wish all of you luck too. Hopefully this coming month is OUR month! BABY DUST TO ALL!!!!!
And yes, it is heavy, not spotting. I am so upset, but there is always next month. I hope 3rd time is the charm. This time i am going to chart everything. My temps, cervical position, CM, etc. I probably O'd late. Didnt chart it right or something. Hopefully now with me charting right when my af starts, it can better predict my ovulation. I hope i get it right this time. I wish all of you luck too. Hopefully this coming month is OUR month! BABY DUST TO ALL!!!!!
I really thought i was pg too. Yup, goes to show you that your body can play some mean tricks on you.
And yes, it is heavy, not spotting. I am so upset, but there is always next month. I hope 3rd time is the charm. This time i am going to chart everything. My temps, cervical position, CM, etc. I probably O'd late. Didnt chart it right or something. Hopefully now with me charting right when my af starts, it can better predict my ovulation. I hope i get it right this time. I wish all of you luck too. Hopefully this coming month is OUR month! BABY DUST TO ALL!!!!!
And yes, it is heavy, not spotting. I am so upset, but there is always next month. I hope 3rd time is the charm. This time i am going to chart everything. My temps, cervical position, CM, etc. I probably O'd late. Didnt chart it right or something. Hopefully now with me charting right when my af starts, it can better predict my ovulation. I hope i get it right this time. I wish all of you luck too. Hopefully this coming month is OUR month! BABY DUST TO ALL!!!!!
I really thought i was pg too. Yup, goes to show you that your body can play some mean tricks on you.
And yes, it is heavy, not spotting. I am so upset, but there is always next month. I hope 3rd time is the charm. This time i am going to chart everything. My temps, cervical position, CM, etc. I probably O'd late. Didnt chart it right or something. Hopefully now with me charting right when my af starts, it can better predict my ovulation. I hope i get it right this time. I wish all of you luck too. Hopefully this coming month is OUR month! BABY DUST TO ALL!!!!!
And yes, it is heavy, not spotting. I am so upset, but there is always next month. I hope 3rd time is the charm. This time i am going to chart everything. My temps, cervical position, CM, etc. I probably O'd late. Didnt chart it right or something. Hopefully now with me charting right when my af starts, it can better predict my ovulation. I hope i get it right this time. I wish all of you luck too. Hopefully this coming month is OUR month! BABY DUST TO ALL!!!!!
I really thought i was pg too. Yup, goes to show you that your body can play some mean tricks on you.
And yes, it is heavy, not spotting. I am so upset, but there is always next month. I hope 3rd time is the charm. This time i am going to chart everything. My temps, cervical position, CM, etc. I probably O'd late. Didnt chart it right or something. Hopefully now with me charting right when my af starts, it can better predict my ovulation. I hope i get it right this time. I wish all of you luck too. Hopefully this coming month is OUR month! BABY DUST TO ALL!!!!!
And yes, it is heavy, not spotting. I am so upset, but there is always next month. I hope 3rd time is the charm. This time i am going to chart everything. My temps, cervical position, CM, etc. I probably O'd late. Didnt chart it right or something. Hopefully now with me charting right when my af starts, it can better predict my ovulation. I hope i get it right this time. I wish all of you luck too. Hopefully this coming month is OUR month! BABY DUST TO ALL!!!!!
I really thought i was pg too. Yup, goes to show you that your body can play some mean tricks on you.
And yes, it is heavy, not spotting. I am so upset, but there is always next month. I hope 3rd time is the charm. This time i am going to chart everything. My temps, cervical position, CM, etc. I probably O'd late. Didnt chart it right or something. Hopefully now with me charting right when my af starts, it can better predict my ovulation. I hope i get it right this time. I wish all of you luck too. Hopefully this coming month is OUR month! BABY DUST TO ALL!!!!!
And yes, it is heavy, not spotting. I am so upset, but there is always next month. I hope 3rd time is the charm. This time i am going to chart everything. My temps, cervical position, CM, etc. I probably O'd late. Didnt chart it right or something. Hopefully now with me charting right when my af starts, it can better predict my ovulation. I hope i get it right this time. I wish all of you luck too. Hopefully this coming month is OUR month! BABY DUST TO ALL!!!!!
I really thought i was pg too. Yup, goes to show you that your body can play some mean tricks on you.
And yes, it is heavy, not spotting. I am so upset, but there is always next month. I hope 3rd time is the charm. This time i am going to chart everything. My temps, cervical position, CM, etc. I probably O'd late. Didnt chart it right or something. Hopefully now with me charting right when my af starts, it can better predict my ovulation. I hope i get it right this time. I wish all of you luck too. Hopefully this coming month is OUR month! BABY DUST TO ALL!!!!!
And yes, it is heavy, not spotting. I am so upset, but there is always next month. I hope 3rd time is the charm. This time i am going to chart everything. My temps, cervical position, CM, etc. I probably O'd late. Didnt chart it right or something. Hopefully now with me charting right when my af starts, it can better predict my ovulation. I hope i get it right this time. I wish all of you luck too. Hopefully this coming month is OUR month! BABY DUST TO ALL!!!!!
I really thought i was pg too. Yup, goes to show you that your body can play some mean tricks on you.
And yes, it is heavy, not spotting. I am so upset, but there is always next month. I hope 3rd time is the charm. This time i am going to chart everything. My temps, cervical position, CM, etc. I probably O'd late. Didnt chart it right or something. Hopefully now with me charting right when my af starts, it can better predict my ovulation. I hope i get it right this time. I wish all of you luck too. Hopefully this coming month is OUR month! BABY DUST TO ALL!!!!!
And yes, it is heavy, not spotting. I am so upset, but there is always next month. I hope 3rd time is the charm. This time i am going to chart everything. My temps, cervical position, CM, etc. I probably O'd late. Didnt chart it right or something. Hopefully now with me charting right when my af starts, it can better predict my ovulation. I hope i get it right this time. I wish all of you luck too. Hopefully this coming month is OUR month! BABY DUST TO ALL!!!!!
I really thought i was pg too. Yup, goes to show you that your body can play some mean tricks on you.
And yes, it is heavy, not spotting. I am so upset, but there is always next month. I hope 3rd time is the charm. This time i am going to chart everything. My temps, cervical position, CM, etc. I probably O'd late. Didnt chart it right or something. Hopefully now with me charting right when my af starts, it can better predict my ovulation. I hope i get it right this time. I wish all of you luck too. Hopefully this coming month is OUR month! BABY DUST TO ALL!!!!!
And yes, it is heavy, not spotting. I am so upset, but there is always next month. I hope 3rd time is the charm. This time i am going to chart everything. My temps, cervical position, CM, etc. I probably O'd late. Didnt chart it right or something. Hopefully now with me charting right when my af starts, it can better predict my ovulation. I hope i get it right this time. I wish all of you luck too. Hopefully this coming month is OUR month! BABY DUST TO ALL!!!!!
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