Anyone else?? Preggo related Question?

[martikadragoon]

Have ppl say your lying about something pregnancy related... etc.?  (swelling, baby kicks, M/S, etc.)

A couple examples : my DH said I was overexaggerating being tired all the time. And also about cramping when I do.

My mom just yesterday told me how she'd met a girl 5 mo. pregnant who said ppl could feel her baby from the outside... and so now Mom doesn't believe that you still can't feel it with me and I'm just barely 6 months pregnant..

The sucky thing is I tried to reassure her that it's true, and even DH hasn't felt it yet.. i've only felt twitches outside a few times when I've gotten lucky... and with DH I've basically tried to just ignore him on it since he does everything else awesomely. (I am DEFINITELY getting kicks inside tho)

[kelliestarr]

Yeah my doctor didn't believe me when I said I haven't felt any baby movements at 23 weeks. She said you must be feeling something you have to be. I haven't honest felt anything no stomach movement, gas, bubbles NOTHING!!!

[martikadragoon]

See... I have this thing that if anyone gets mad at me because I can't do something. (like walk around a lot as I swell up)... I say it's because i'm pregnant...etc.

Everyone says I use pregnancy as an excuse for EVERYTHING.. but what else should I do? Suck it up and deal with it. lol

I still get m/s NOW and i've had to go home 2X from work on PDL pregnancy disability leave. And anytime I've asked to leave for it... I almost feel as tho they're judging me in they're heads.. and I get funny looks about it.

DH has said I'm lazy a few times regarding not doing house work. but if i'm on my feet cleaning for more than 1/2 hr. My legs swell, pretty bad actually. Basically I told him,

How about you go thru 6 months of m/s, Work FULL TIME, deal with NON STOP heartburn, Be tired all the time like you only slept 3hrs,  strap a 10lb weight on your stomach and a couple more weights on your chest, and just try WALKING around for a day...

It usually shuts him up for the day. :)

[LosingMyMindInGA]

I agree with Brown Eyed Gurl....I'm all about blaming stuff on that hormonal rage LOL  fortunately for me i've been pregnant enough times now that my hubby tends to listen when i say something.  Wasn't always that way though...I can remember many arguments becuase even though i was a stay at home mom housework wasn't getting donw becuase I was so exhausted...Now hes just like "so screw house work..go take a nap"  LOL

[Brown Eyed Gurl]

kick him in the knee and blame it on temporary pregnancy insainity.....

[leetlebeanweasle]

Oh and a side note...when I first told him I was pregnant he asked how I was feeling and I told him I had been throwing up constantly and he told me (in front of my boss) that I wasn't supposed to get sick until the last trimester b/c that's what happened with his wife! (like I was making the whole thing up!) I was so upset! I said that every pregnancy was different but NORMALLY people get sick in the first trimester. He's kinda a know it all I guess. I feel bad for his wife.

[leetlebeanweasle]

Totally understand! This guy comes into the office and asks how I'm feeling and says "OH you got burnt, how did that happen" So I said I'm still feeling pretty sick and I got sun burnt b/c my friend helped me plant a veggie garden but wouldn't let me help (b/c she was looking out for me) so I sat and baked in the sun..lol Anyway he looked at me like I was insane and said "why couldn't you help?" I said b/c my doc said I can't till or lift or shovel and he rolled his eyes and said "well, your not getting any sympathy from me" and so I told him I didn't want his sympathy I just didn't want to be judged..I was ticked! People can be jerks!

[Brown Eyed Gurl]

my DH thinks I'm over exagerating lots when I tell him how wore out I am....but I'm not.....heck I'm carrying two babies.......and some women you can't feel their babies on the outside til later depending on the postition of the placenta.....so she needs to do some research.....but trust me I know how you feel.

[taken062406]

OMG, totally know what you guys are talking about.   I am almost 4 months along.  My DH doesn't believe me on any thing.  I will tell him that I am not feeling so well or I have a headache, and he just gives me this look like I am an idiot.  It pisses me off so bad.   And then, I work with my mom and this other guy.  But when I first found out, I would talk about it and try to get my self excited about it.  But everytime I would say anything about it, they would be so negative about EVERYTHING.  So now I dont even talk about it.  And I feel like my mom is to rapped up in her own life to even care.  Some days I just want to scream or just lay down and cry.  I want for my mom to be excited with me.  I just dont understand.  

[jesslee83]

haha.....i have made the decision not to have my mom in the room, because honestly we really aren't as close as i let her think(for reasons she knows but won't accept), and i'm hoping that DF can take a few days off to be here.....also, i'm switching to a dr here in houston, b/c if i go into labor i can't drive 3 hours to georgetown to have a baby lol, and although i'd originally planned to stay at her house from a couple weeks before birth, till a week or so after, i've changed my mind.....but she's actually being really selfish, b/c rather than try and find a way to come to houston(like, her and my grandmother come down together), she keeps saying how she can't leave my brother and sister(ok her bf has lived there for like 7 years, hellooooo, or they could each stay with friends so as not to miss school), and just come here, or how she can't miss work, or how she has no way down here(she d/n have a car).....idk, last week i just freaked out on DF and told him that was "our" thing, and that i'd rather be closer to him than her, b/c if he isnt offshore but he is on land, and i'm at moms, by the time he found i was in labor, i could already have the baby(ya, slim possibility, but by the time he answered his phone, or got them to let him leave etc), then he could miss it.....i'll have to post my own topic for that lol

[martikadragoon]

Jesslee~ yea... my mom just thinks I don't want her involved but it's not that... I also don't let her touch my stomach too much because it drives me BONKERS anytime anyone other than DH does it. She seems to think that because this girl who's 5mo.. can feel it that I'm lying to her.. I told her i'm not but she doesn't really believe me. so basically I just said. Believe what you want. I'll be sure to tell you when DH feels it the first time so that you can try. UGH.

BTS~ that dr's note is a good idea... maybe I should try to get one. we have a dr's appointment on Wed. of this week and my mom will be going with me. I'm gonna have this dr. tell her Every woman and baby are different.

[ftogirl]

Here's another twist to this...for instance, someone asks how you're feeling and you say not so well today.  Especially in the beginning when I was nauseated I would say I didn't feel so good.  One person, after they'd asked me how I felt, would then say oh, you haven't had it that bad.  Some people have it much worse than you do.  Back when I was pregnant, I puked every day.  -And I'm thinking...if you didn't want to know how I was feeling today, why did you ask??  :)
Ah, well.  Some people are just that way I guess.

[BTS1022]

I get the same thing, If I grab my belly from a kick and my sister or dad can't feel it they claim im lying. Im almost 5 months and in the same boat. I feel a twitch here and there on the outside but nothing that anyone else would probaby be aware of.

As far as DH goes he doesnt underestimate my feelings, he asks if Im really that exhausted and understands it is hard because he has never been pregnant.

Especially that I have 2 other kids in the house.

What I tell DH is he can cook, clean and care for the kids plus have an additional 10 pounds strapped around your midsection, and he shuts up pretty fast lol.

What I did was had my OB write a doctors note to my father and sister saying, the baby only weighs 9 ounces, if he was to kick hard enough for it to be felt on the outside he would probably break his tiny legs lol.

[jesslee83]

ya, my DF thinks i'm not as tired as i am.....my mom reassures me and tells me it's fine, esp since i'm usually always doing something, and now i'm reduced to getting up early so i can take 3 hour naps lol.....and i've only felt the "quickening", but my fiance says he's felt a slight "thump" a few times.....so i guess we're doing it to each other, cos he felt "thumping" a month ago, and i'm just now getting them lol, and he was doing it while i was either asleep, or right after i'd fall asleep, and i kept telling him he was only saying it b/c i asked why he doesnt touch *him* lol.....if i can remember my mom being pregnant with my brother (10 years ago), he was really lazy lol, and at 7 or 8 months, SHE could get him to kick, but me and my stepdad and g-ma never could lol.....so THEN is when i learned every woman, and every baby is different.....