CRYING MY EYES OUT

[SLeeann]

IM PREGNANT, ONLY 4 WEEKS 2 DAYS ALONG BUT I AM SOOOOOO TERRIFIED OF HAVING ANOTHER MISCARRIAGE SOME MOMENTS I WISH I WASNT EVEN PREGNANT. I WANT TO HAVE A BABY SO BAD BUT IM JUST SO SCARED OF LOSING THIS BABY LIKE I DID LAST MONTH. I WAS ABLE TO GET THHROUGH THAT MISCARRIAGE OKAY(IT WAS MY FIRST) AND NOW I AM ALREADY PREGNANT. I KNOW HOW HARD THEY ARE BUT YOU CAN NEVER PREPARE YOURSELF FOR WHEN YOU WALK IN THE BATHROOM TO PEE AND THEN SEE TONS OF BLOOD IN THE TOILET.(WHICH IS WHAT HAPPEND TO ME) IM JUST SO SCARED....EVERY LITTLE PAIN I HAVE I THINK..... OH NO, OH MY GOSH, IM GUNNA MISCARRY. IM DRIVING MY HUSBAND CRAZY BECAUSE IM CRYING ALL THE TIME. IM JUST SO SCARED TO THE POINT I THINK IM LOSING MY MIND. ANY ADVICE ON HOW TO COPE?? IS THIS JUST NORMAL? MY LOWER BACK STILL ISNT BETTER AND I SWEAR I THINK ITS BECAUSE IM GETTING READY TO MISCARRY. I DONT KNOW, IM JUST A MESS

[xoxo_Confused_xoxo]

same here i know how you i feel, the first time i was pregnant i miscarried as well that was in november...2 months later i am pregnant again and i am going on to my 7th week tomorro..i wrote a similar post to this because i am sooo scared of having another...Ppl told me its not very common to have 2 miscarriages in a row but could happen, try and keep an open mind and not think about the worst. Thats what i am trying to do i know its hard but everything will be fine hun, good luck :)

[SLeeann]

i feel alot better knowing that i am not alone.  Thanks to everyone who posted!!!

[depressed748]

I know how you feel...I just had a miscarried back in Dec. If I am able to get pregnant again I think I will be the same way you are. On the other hand I know that it will cause stress to the baby so I would try not to think about at all and go with the flow. Good luck and best wishes I am sure that everything will be be ok

[kjbutcher]

I never had a miscarriage and felt that terrifying feeling.  I should have bought stock in toilet paper.  I went to the bathroom just to check.  Part of what you are feeling is a normal part of pregnancy for everyone.  Try to stay positive (yeah yeah, I know it is impossible).  The rate of normal pregnancy after miscarriage is very high.  Good Luck and this horrible feeling will pass as time goes by.  

[JoyRenee]

I got pregnant after my miscarriage and was scared the entire pregnancy! But I gave birth two days before my due date to a healthy little girl. One miscarriage does not mean you'll have another. Try to relax and not stress out about it. Take things as they come.

If you're really scared about a m/c, then you should be active about putting those fears to rest. Make sure you're producing progesterone (they can test it by taking your blood and can give supplements if it is low), or if you had a blood clotting issue (usually if you get a cut it won't stop bleeding or takes a long time to stop bleeding).

[Diane1003]

Please know that you are not alone in how you feel!!  When I was in the doctor's office and they confirmed my 2nd miscarriage (back to back cycles) she was telling me I'm young (31 at the time), healthy, and will be a mom in no time.  However - I lost it and she referred me to a specialist - they did testing and found I have a blood clotting issue - I now take baby aspirin and am 18 weeks pregnant.  I stare at the tissue EVERY time I go to the bathroom. I have a friend who had a son, three miscarriages and another son (in that order) - she said there wasn't a day that went by when she was pregnant with her 2nd son that she didn't worry...  Follow doctor's orders and get lots of rest - have faith and trust in what is meant to be will be. Know there are others out there just like you!!

[krushing]

I know how you feel.  I am over 5 weeks with my second pregnancy (first ended early in m/c).  I have been spotting a little today and I'm a little worried.  I've been cramping off and on since I found out I was pregnant and my doctor said that is normal.  I know how scared you are.  I just posted and said if I hadn't m/c before I don't think I'd be as paranoid as I am right now.  Just be careful in what you do, rest and try not to stress too much.  I know, easier said than done!  My lower back is hurting off and on when I sleep and when I stand too long...not sure if that's what you are talking about.  My doctor said that is normal too.  I had to learn from my m/c that it wasn't anything I did and I couldn't have stopped it.