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Dealing with an addict. opinions??
My boyfriend was arrested right before we found out I was pregnant because of stupid things he did while drinking. He realized he was an alcoholic and vowed to get better. I told him if he ever drank again he could forget about me and our baby. Not even 2 weeks after his release he called me and said he had bought a beer, he was drinking it and was scared. The day after he went and got assessed and is now going to aa and has an evaluation for treatment in December. Would it be wrong of me to hold his slip up against him?? I didn't talk to him for 2 days but I realize he wants to be healthy. I just don't want my baby around that or to flake on my word. Help!! Sorry it's so long
Maybe if you leave him, he'll realize what he's lost and it will give him a motivation to be better and get healthy.
Thank you guys so much! I really needed the encouragement. The worst part for me is not being able to control the situation
Dealing with an addict is a hard long road. I did it for 6 years and it was the most stressful thing ever. No matter what I said or did would change him. It has to be something they want. When my relationship got abusive I took our 2 children and left him. Honestly it was hard but the best decision of my life. Yes I loved him but it wasn't worth it. It's now 4 years later he hasn't changed and I'm happily married and expecting. I'm not saying don't give him another chance because no matter what my friends and family said I had to keep trying until I woke up. Good luck I wish you the best.
My boyfriend and I went through the exact same thing! He got arrested for being drunk and doing stupind stuff right before I got pregnant and I told him the same thing that if he drinks again he can forget about me and the baby and its not like he is an alcoholic but he would drink once in a while and when he drank he had no limit and black out and do stupid things...he hasnt drank since and that was 4 months ago...but its always in the back of my head what would happen if he does drink again and if he would ever do something that would harm me or the baby, its kinda hard to live that way but I just pray everyday he stays sober for good for his child...so I know how you feel!
It seems like he is trying if you want to stay with him then I would be there to support him and you should also attend some of his counseling to know how you should be there for support and for your own well being. I know it's hard to on family members of addicts too. Consider seeking a counselor for your self
Dealing with any kind of addict is hard. I've personally had to deal with an alcoholic. He was so addicted to it though that if he didnt have at least one beer a day he would have seizures and the shakes real bad. It's a very hard struggle. Especially for the addict theirselves. But realizing you do have a problem and trying to get help is a very important step because no one can do force you to quit you have to want too. But goodluck to you. I hope things work in your favor.
I would give him another chance. Like shell132 said at least he admitted his mistake. Its not so easy for him to just up and quit if hes addicted to it...if hes sincerely getting better then i would say stick by his side but if hes playing it off like he wants to get better but rlly isnt then i would put my foot down. Hope u make the right choice hun(:
You could always end things and see where it leads too i mean you leave him and he dont get the message then so be it he made his choice but if he does get better and can STAY better then maybe he be worth a try
When your an addict its very hard to break and the fact he's a guys they have a tendency to act before they think lol but hey at least he seems to be trying but its yoir decition
My thoughts exactly! He said he didn't know he was going to. I want him to know I'm not messing around. He could have easily asked for help before he got it
What I don't understand is why would he willing to buy a beer and drink it knowing you had said that he could forget about you and your baby if he did?!
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