Do men have biological clocks too?

[valerie88]

Hi, I am 22 and my husband is 28. He has always talked about wanting a baby ever since we got together 4 yrs. ago. I told him that I wanted to wait until we got married and he understood. We got married in October and started trying to conceive almost immediately. We haven't gotten pregnant yet (we haven't really been trying for the last 4 months) and my husband seems to be very sad and disheartened about this. He says that he feels like something is missing in his life, and he just hasn't been himself since we stopped trying and talking about it. He's become snippy towards me and distant. I can understand that in some ways, but then again don't. I am younger than him and maybe that is why I don't completely understand why he is so anxious to have a baby. Is it normal for a guy to act this way about wanting a baby and getting sad when it doesn't happen right away? Can some guys have a "biological clock" like women do? Has anyone else experienced anything similar to this?

[valerie88]

Thank you for your advice, I really appreciate it! I just feel a little lost sometimes, because my family background isn't the greatest and I DON'T want to end up like my mom did and since my husband is acting a little snippy lately I automatically assume (even though I shouldn't) that I am going to end up in the same situation as my mom. I know thats really screwed up, but growing up the way that I did leaves me always "protecting" myself.  I should know that he is snippy b/cuz he truly wants to have a baby with all of his heart, but I just get scared worrying that it could be something else. It's great to hear that you've been through the same thing too. Thank you so much for sharing. I feel better now. My husband has expressed that he wants to have a child or children while he is still young and he feels like he is getting older so that is stressing him out and making him sad. I think his feelings are genuine and I am just freaking out, reading too much into it. Do you think that is what it could be?

[LosingMyMindInGA]

it may not necessarily be a biological clock kind of thing.  He could just truly want a child badly.  Or, I think that some men not only want a child but need that reassurance that they truly are a man becuase they have created life.  Does that make sense?  With women, failing to conceive hits our hearts, our need and desire to nurture.  For many men it hits not only the heart but the manhood aspect as well.  

I went through this to a degree with my husband.  He felt that there was something wrong with HIM.  He's had a very rough life though, a family who never gave a sh!t about it etc so he already has a very delicate ego.  

Your husband may just truly want a child and he may not want to wait until he's older to have one so that he can fully enjoy his children while he's still young.