Fear of miscarriage after hearing heart beat

[sweetangel7]

So, I guess this is not really a question but I need to vent, reach out for support, get this off my chest etc.  I had a mc in December and I never thought it would happen..I was shocked and devastated...ANYWAYS, after 7 months ttc dh and I are pregnant again (yay!).  I already had my first ultrasound at 8w1d and everything was perfect...saw the baby, the heartbeat, heard the heartbeat...a strong 160 BUT I feel like I am consumed with the fear of losing this baby...I'm 9w1d today and I had some ms yesterday, my breasts are less sensitive, my ms has subsided a bit...I am still constipated, gassy, bloated, tired...so I didn't lose all my symptoms but it seems like they have subsided and I am so nervous.  I am trying to stay positive and not think about it but it keeps creeping up on me!  I have my next ultrasound at 12 weeks on Oct. 9...I am terrified I will go and the baby will have died!  

[sweetangel7]

I got a wave of ms yesterday just before dinner and Thursday it hit just before dinner too...I thought I was good all day then it hit!  I guess it is normal for symptoms to come and go...I wish my doctor had said something positive to me...we were so excited and then he had to mention that there is still a risk of miscarriage until the first trimester is over =(  Way to rain on my parade!  He did say the heartbeat was a promising sign though.

[KM604]

I know exactly how you feel.  I too m/c'd in December.  I am now 18 1/2 weeks.  When I got my BFP, I immediatly called the doctor and they said they wouldnt even see me until I was 9 or 10 weeks - I freaked!  So I had them check my hcg levels to make sure they were rising properly, which they were, so that put me at ease until my first appointment.  My first appointment was at 8w3d, we saw and heard the heartbeat.  The doctor said the chances of m/c'ing after hearing a heartbeat are very slim.  Also, my m/s would go away, but beware it will come back!! Just when you start to worry it will come back.  And if it doesn't, you are lucky!  Just think, some women get no symptoms at all.  Trust me, I know it's hard, but do your best to relax because you want to enjoy this pregnancy.

[sweetangel7]

Thanks everyone!  It means so much to me that you all left some kind words!  Now it is off my chest and hopefully I can worry less!

[Linzola1]

I understand excatky what you are feeling. I had a miscarriage last Sept and got pregnant right agian in Oct and although I was lucky that I was able to get pregnant so soon I could not help but fear that I got pregnant too soon and this baby would not have a chance... The heartbeat sounds wonderful hun and Im sure al will be WONDERFUL! I will keep you in my prayers and keep us posted!

[amy0013]

{{{{HUGS!}}}}}  It is sooo natural to worry.  I was pregnant at the same time as my cousin and she miscarried...I was absolutely terrified from that moment on that the same thing was going to happen to me.  I know you're feeling the same things.  Every tiny bit of wetness I felt I was certain was blood and it was all over.  If it makes you feel any better, my doctor told me once you have heard/seen the heartbeat the chance of miscarriage drops to like 5 or 10%.  Try to stay positive and take it easy until October 9th.  :)  

[AnitaRFrith]

I will be 11 weeks this Sat. an I think about that all the time.  I lost twins, the 1st at 3 weeks, an the 2nd at 19 weeks an 5 days.  Then I was pregnant in my tube an almost died.  I had staples from hip to hip that got infected.  I had to go to physical theropy for 2 months.  So I understand what you are feeling.  Its hard not to worry, but you just have to put it in God's hands.  Good Luck.  

PS> I go to my OB app in the morning an I'm nervious.  Even though I feel pregnant. lol

[FEOT]

Like all the other gals said, its natural and we all worry. I know its easier said than done, but just relax. Maybe all the systems you are expecting wont last as long or have at all this time around. Your in my thought in prayers.

[sweetangel7]

Hugs to all of you!  There was nothing really that anyone could say other than they hear me, I'm not crazy and that other women have felt this way too.  I am religious, and my grandmother says, "If you pray don't worry and if you worry don't pray..." She seems to think they are counter productive to one another lol  Sooooo I keep telling myself that I've prayed, and to not worry!  I do have faith and I do believe whatever happens will be what the best plan for me is HOWEVER I do have a way I want this plan to go...such as a healthy baby in 7 more months!

[JoyRenee]

I too was still afraid after seeing the heartbeat (with my youngest, which was after my m/c). I was scared the entire pregnancy. I don't think there's anything I could say to relieve your fear except to tell you that having a healthy pregnancy after seeing the heartbeat is the NORM, not the exception!

[LauraB78]

I think that is sooo normal.

I am sorry you are stressing, but I worry ALL the time that something is wrong, or my son will die, or have defects. It is awful, but I think it is normal..

Sending you ((e-hugs!!))

It will be what it will be... That is what I continually tell myself.. We just dont have much control over these things. I know that isn't very helpful, but I wanted to tell you that you arent alone in the constant worrying!

XO

[mj_mommy_manda]

Yeah, it gets easier once you feel them moving.. But then you freak out if you DONT feel them move.. lol you'll never win! you will worry cuz you cant feel them move.. then you worry if they move too much... (I always worried when he would go really crazy that he was gonna wrap the umbilical cord around his neck) I know! Im crazy.. But i read a post on here about a lady thats baby died at like 38 weeks because of his umbilical cord wrapped around his neck and I have been scarred since then.. (probably shouldn't have even told you that.) There is always going to be something to worry about.. After the baby is born your just gonna worry about SIDS, and then you're gonna worry about whether or not they eat enough or if they eat too much and then you're gonna worry about whether or not they are talking/walking/smiling early enough.. it just goes on and on.. Mommies get to worry about a lot of stuff! lol but it DOES get better as far as pregnancy is concerned.. Wait till you get to feel the baby have hiccups 7 times a day for 15 minutes at a crack.. lol then you wont be so worried..

[sweetangel7]

Thanks!  I know it is not good to worry but I am glad to hear other people worry too!  Once I am further along I think I'll be better with my worrying!  

[mj_mommy_manda]

I had my first ultrasound at 13 weeks and even though I saw him wiggling around in there I was STILL scared.. I think its really a natural thing when you have gone through a miscarriage.. Just try to be calm.. You may be beginning to lose symptoms because the 2nd trimester is approaching, or you might just be getting used to your symptoms! I have been worried my entire pregnancy, its not something that goes away.. You just need to trust that everything will turn out fine.  You are in my thoughts.  After you get further along things will get better! Once I could feel him moving around everyday (around 28 weeks) I got less worried and more excited!