Found out I was Pregnant and then Miscarried

[blueskye20]

Its been a year now this September since we have been trying to get pregnant and I found out in July that I was finally pregnant.  I didnt tell anybody right at first because I didnt really believe it (I didnt post you ladies about it because my computer has been in the shop getting worked on).  Then I got confirmation from a pregnancy center and after that a doctor.  I was so excited, my dreams came true and my prayers were answered.  We'd been trying to get pregnant for almost a year and I was begining to think there was something wrong with me and it finally happened.  I told my fiance about three weeks ago, he didnt get as visibly joyful as I was (he doesnt express emotions much anyway) but I could tell that he was very happy inside, he just seemed peacful.  Then, this Friday I began bleeding.  I told him about it when I woke up and noticed it and he said that it was no big deal and to just go to the doctor.  So I went to the doctor as soon as I could.... the bleeding had gotten heavier and by the time I got to my doctor and by this time I was frantic and all shook up inside.  Once everything was said and done, when I left the doctor I had been informed that I was miscarrying.  I dont think I've ever felt such a heavy, painful stabbing feeling inside before.  I just went home and cried like I never cried before.  When he got home I told him and he didnt seem to have any reaction.  He didnt cry, didnt try to hold me and didnt try to comfort me at all.  All he said is "thats okay, we got a long time".  I know that hes a man and they have different ways of thinking but I'm so hurt and full of sorrow.... I was expecting him to share my pain but instead his words didnt help at all.

[sweetangel7]

Sorry for your loss.  I too had a mc in December and I cried like I had never cried before.  Perhaps your husband didn't know how to deal or what to do.  Not a great excuse BUT you yourself said that he isn't very emotional, maybe he just wasn't sure what to do...idk.  Hugs, and  hopefully each day will be easier.  Try when YOU are ready and you will be blessed again.

[blueskye20]

Wow, thanks, that quote made me cry, but it was a good kinda cry... you know?

My sister in law says that now that I've already been pregnant and had a miscarriage that it might be easier when we try agian.  I dont know if I want to try again though.

[jennymay]

I am so sorry for your loss, I have been in a similar situation. Someone posted this a while back, and it really helped me think about the miscarriage in a different light.

"An angel in the book of life wrote down my baby's birth.
Then whispered as she closed the book "too beautiful for earth". (author unknown)