Found out pregnant at 30 weeks.

[heyhihellobaby]

I am 19 years old and just 6 weeks ago I found out I was 30 weeks pregnant. I am now 36 weeks and 1 day. I want to say that I promise this isn't a joke, and this really isn't a lie. And I'm posting on here because I'm scared, I have a lot of questions and I'd really like some support and some good answers. 6 weeks ago, i woke up in the morning with my stomach really tight and hard to the point where it was unbearably uncomfortable. I called my mom from my room and let her feel my stomach. She immediately told me something didn't seem right and said we should go to the doctor. I went to my family doctor and he came in and did a check up, and felt my stomach. He looked at me funny and said "I would like for you to go get some xrays. But first you need to go here to get a pregnancy test." Obviously he thought that I could be pregnant because I had been to the doctor before for X-rays and he never referred me to get a pregnancy test first. That started to freak me out. Although I knew there was no possible way I could be pregnant because I was having my regular periods (they were usually months apart because I had irregular periods) So I agreed to go get a test at the hospital. They took urine and a blood test and it came out positive. I was so shocked. I had no idea this could have happened and never thought it would happen to me. The doctor came in and said that he needed to admit me to a room and start me on an iv because they had no idea how far along I could be and also the baby has had no prenatal care. They gave me something to put on and the doctor came in. She felt my stomach (to find my uterus to see about how far along she thought I was) and it was already above my belly button! She was shocked, and looked frightened honestly. And said "You are about 28-30 weeks pregnant" I looked at her in disbelief. There was no way. I was tiny and hadn't gotten any bigger. Not even a baby bump. It seemed completely impossible. They took me in to do an emergency ultrasound and it turned out I'm having a healthy baby girl. And was told she weighed 4.2 pounds!

It's been 6 weeks, and now that I know I'm pregnant I've been eating as much as I want and can so I've grown some! I have a noticeable belly now. But it's still tiny! I have so many questions. How bad to contractions hurt before 3-4 centimetres? If i can sit through a large tattoo on my ribs will an epidural hurt? And can you feel the pain after it? I'm getting better about not bein scared about labor but I'd like to hear some answers and story's to make me feel better! Thanks. (Sorry this was so long I had to get it all out!)

[ash20096]

I just has my son a week and a day ago. The epidural didn't hurt it was the spinal tap that hurt since they do that first. I had to have the epidural amount upped several times since it would wear off. But that is because my body builds up a defense against pain medicine.

[mommyofaria]

My due date is October.16th as well!!! This is an amazing story!!! Congratulations :)

[Chances_Wife09]

That is crazy... I'm 20 years old && 17 weeks pregnant and SOO nervous of the actual labor part... && reading yalls comments ur gonna do just fine. Men are ALL assholes!! I was with a guy from 6th grade till 10th grade summer nd I'm glad I let him go because I'm happily engaged to the most wonderful guy nw... Never thought there wud b a guy that was so honest and faithful.. Good luck ladies!! :)

[Feishababy]

Ops pushed button on accident.

But anyway me and my baby daddy we'rent in a relationship just friends with benefits with hope of becoming something more then we had our ops moment when I got pregnant and we stopped talking before we found out I was pregnant.
I told him I was and he said abortion and pressed that issue for moooonths so I told him to f off im keeping this baby and I don't need you around to help me with anything. He came around when I was roughly 5 months along and now he's really excited for our baby and he's stepping up and buying everything that our boy needs and he's all over the idea of being a dad he wants to be in the delivery room and be as involved as he possibly can.


So who knows maybe telling your baby daddy may make him change it may not.

[Feishababy]

Just like everybody else is saying I mean its your choice to tell the father but im juss going to tell you my experience not tell you that you should.

Okay so my mom got pregnant at 19a had me at 20 my dad was 18 and was a hardcore drug addict like he did every drug out there but when he found out I was coming he still didn't stop the drug weed was his drug of choice once he found out I was on my way sp he cut back on the badder drugs but still did them. He stepped up and at least was around for awhile but then 2 years later my brother came around and my mom and dad we're broken up cuz of his drugs and lack if growing up he did. Then when I was 7 my dad went to jail for possession of drugs and intent to sell so now years later im 18juss and I mean I love my dad but the drugs he did do have ruined his mind he's bipolar has rage issues still does pot and has a drinking problem so me and him don't have a relationship because of all his issues he has said and done lots of hurtful things to my brother who is 15 and honestly I wish my dad wasn't in my life so I get why you don't want to tell your baby daddy.

Now my own personal experience I got pregnant at 17 and turned 18 4and months after knowing

[babymakes04]

Epidural was nothing for me.  I have 7 tattoos including one on my ribs so you should be fine.  i will say contractions hurt but thats to be expected, we cant really tell you how bad or what they feel like because it all depends on how you tolerate pain.
As for the father - I think it is your decision but i thnk you should tell him just so he knows.

[Stephanithaog]

The process of getting an epidural lasts 30 minutes, but you won't even care what they do to you if you're in enough pain to need one. I made the mistake of waiting until I was 7cm gone to get an epidural when my obgyn put it in my plan that I could get one when I reached 4cm... I suggest you do it as early as you can so you have time to rest. It's really not that bad compared to contractions.

[Heatherm4]

Wow, amazing. Congrats to you. It is a scary thing and yes you haven't had all those months to prepare but you'll make it!

I can't tell you what the epidural is like but I can tell you I got a tattoo at 17 years old and bawled my eyes out but somehow was able to give birth naturally (by choice) to two babies! So I think you'll be strong enough :)

As far as the Dad, I agree that he should know. What he does or doesn't do with that information is completely up to him. This should be a big decision that will overall not just effect him but it'll effect your daughters life as well. It could help him quit his lifestyle and give your daughter a father that loves her.

[KTowne]

Sometimes big events, like a child, YOUR child, coming into the world, will change your life completely. Some men will man up and step up, some men won't. If you told him now, he has that opportunity, if he doesn't, too bad for him, he's missing out on a blessing, if you tell him years down the road, your little girl is going to be so confused as to who this man is, and that she DOES have a dad. Also, not sure where you live or the laws, but if you don't let him know and he finds out years down the road and tries to take you for custody (not saying he's going to, and from the road he's on now, probably won't) he may get extra time with her for the time he missed out on. Just something to think about. Honestly, I found out I was pregnant at 3 1/2 weeks, and at 18 weeks found out it was a girl, and I have everything already, and I'm only 22 weeks, so you can prepare yourself physically quickly, mentally might take some catching up, haha!

[macylynn93]

Wow ur story is truly amazing...im 18 and 17w4d congratulations on your babygirl(:!!

[dystanie]

the good news is that you found out you were pregnant and that shes healthly. i was 19 when i had my son and hes now 15months old. labor is painful but youll beable to handle pain. i recieved an epidural and it wasnt as bad as i thought it was going to be and im afraid of needles. it made the pain go away for a bit and allowed me to rest. as for child birth idk because i had to have a c-section. dont stress out so much youll do just fine. as for the father i agree with you its the person who loves her and raises her. good luck with the rest of your pregnancy:)

[sorenr]

If you managed the pain of a tattoo on your ribs, you'll manage childbirth just fine. It's not always a long, painful experience. My last child (my third) was born within 3hrs of my first contraction!

I totally understand not wanting to tell the father with his lifestyle being as it is just now, I would likely do the same. The one thing I would suggest is to keep some record of who he is and when your daughter starts to ask questions, you can start to gently explain who he is and why he isnt around. When she is old enough, she may want to find him and make the choice for herself and she will appreciate your support on that if thats the choice she makes as an adult.

Congratulations on your wonderful little surprise, I hope it all goes well for you and you have some time to let the news sink in properly and be prepared before she decides to make her grand appearance!

[LeighlaSims]

Are you still having your period?

[katsi1990]

Oh wow. U r so brave. Normaly we have months to worry about labor lol. Just relax though. Im pregnant with my second. When i gave birth to my son i didnt have any pain relief so i think it depends on ur pain barrier. So good luck and congratulations. X

[mommyofhayden_]

I respect your opinion and your choice not to tell him. If i were in your shoes i would wait until he straightens up (if he ever does) to tell him. I feel like you are doing what's best for your little girl and the name is adorable =)

[PriceFamily91611]

Maybe if u told him he wuld man up, it might change his life and make him want to b a better person and get off drugs, some men do and some don't

[heyhihellobaby]

I'm naming her Addison Rowan! And thanks you guys again! But I've already made my decision. For now I'm not going to tell the father. I will tell him when she's a little bit older. But for now he's too immature and too horrible to know.

[PriceFamily91611]

SORRY THIS IS HOW WE TYPE AT WORK SO ITS HABIT FOR ME BC I DO IT EVERY DAY FOR YEARS, BUT I WASNT TRYING TO BE RUDE JUST FACTS

[rachb11]

i really dont think pricefamily tries to sound rude, those caps just makes it so hard to not picture her yelling. lol pricefamily you should fix that all caps thing lol so no one thinks your tryin to be rude girl! haha cause i really dont think you are lol.

[Ladyspliff]

Wow! Poor thing, you havent even had time to prepare for a baby! Thank God she's okay. :) My sister said she felt nothing after her epidural, and everything went smooth.

[Babyboy12]

Im due four days after u:) I CANT WAIT, GL AGAIN

[Irene7]

Congrats!!!!:))

[mrsh72911]

Congrats! What an awesome but scary story! It won't be too long till your lil girl is in your arms that's exciting.
And I'm a ftm i did delivery with no meds! You'll do great.
And as for the dad, its all your choice! Since he doesn't want to be around he's the one missing out. From what you said about him.you and your lil girl are better off without him :)
Have you thought of names yet

[PriceFamily91611]

THE TRUTH ALWAYS COMES OUT AND SOONER OR LATER SHE WILL FIND OUT JUST LIKE MY DAD AND IT CAUSED A LOT OF PROBLEMS IN OUR FAMILY AND WITH HIS MOTHER FOR HER LYING TO HIM  BASICALLY HIS WHOLE LIFE, IM NOT SAYING YOUR GOING TO LIE AND NOT TELL HER IM JUST SAYING IT SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT.