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my ex gf four weeks ago sed she was late by week and a half after we had sex and she took the morning afterpill so had to do pregnancy tests, she then had a mssive go at me (this was a tuesday)and sayin she was gonna do a test in two days then at the weekend and the sed she was doing it on the wedsnesday. she then sed that she got a postive and a negative. i have no proof just her word. she then kept sayin somethings wrong. she then went doctors i had to wait in waiting room she then sed there was alot of heavy bleeding so doctor sed she shud do sample and bring it back. she then went to a hospital with the bleeding and they sed to her if she is preganat shes probably had a miscarriage again only her word. did the test on thursday she got the result on monday so she sed and told me on tuesday wasnt pregnant. the sunday folllowing she told me to get tested and then monday was saying she werent gonna be around much longer cause shes got abnormal cells (knew about abnormal cells just before she sed she was late) then she twisted bak to sayin im going get rid not gonna ruin ur life i asked wat she meant she wouldnt say two days later on the wednesday she sed she came off pill early and hadnt come on so had to do two more tests she then sed she wud get results on the friday. she sed that she had to go hospital on sat so probs wasnt pregnant. then on monday text me syain she had bad news. asked her wat it was and she didnt reply. then on tuesday she sed she was stressing and cud i come get the result with her i sed which one abnormal cells or pregnancy she sed pregannacy abnormal cells isnt for a couple of weeks.she then sed she wud get results friday and made an appointment for 10 20 she then sed it changed to 9 50 i hadnt replied cause she sed i cudnt come in with her cause she had to talk about other stuff. i sed will go out after the results she sed goin in on my own. turned up at doctors 9 30 on friday nomsign of her so waited got to 1020 and she drove past doctors and stopped halfway down road and rang me she sed wat u doin i sed waiting for u and she sed she had bin cause i hadnt replied i then sed i had been here since 930 and she sed she had an appointment at nine. she then sed im not pregnant was the result so i walked off she text me 10 mins later sayin i lied so i sed so ur pregnant then and she sed how do i know wat i say ur not gonna tell anyone. i sed i wont i promise and she kicked off syain i didnt belive she had an appointment and stuff so i had sed are u pregnant yes or no she sed wat differnce does it make so i asked her again are u pregnant yes or no and a hour and half later she sed its not nice knowing the truth is it, just leave it and leave me alone uve already done nough damage to me and soon i will be rid. the thing is shes been out drinking every weekend
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1720510 tn?1309283062
She is so not pregnant by you not wanting our not caring to be with her makes her mad so she pulls what allot of girls do"I'm pregnant"it's the easiest way to get a mans attention but if she miss carried she obviously isn't pregnant and of she is it isn't yours most women even not ready being together would want you in the room she dosnt want you in there cuz she knew she was not pregnant made A fake appointment to throw you off I would change your number and leave the psycho alone
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187316 tn?1386356682
If she was bleeding really bad and wont give you a straight answer then she is probably not pregnant. I would tell her that until she takes a test that you purchase and does it in front of you that you will no longer be accepting her calls of responding to her texts.
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1615840 tn?1311190191
I don't think that "demanding" she do a pregnancy test will do any good. From what your post says it seems as though she enjoys keeping you guessing for some reason and demanding she do a test would only make her more angry and most likely would cause her to continue stringing you along. I can understand her not wanting you to be in the room when she goes to the doctor considering how you arent together anymore, BUT there is NO reason for her not to provide some sort of proof especially considering how she has changed her story so many times. Any normal person would want proof after everything she has said, so you aren't wrong for wanting proof. If I were you, I would tell her you want to meet and talk face to face about whats going on. Then act like you fully believe her pregnancy story and are excited about it. Then if she sticks to the story that she IS pregnant then tell her how excited you are and ASK her if YOU can buy her a pregnancy test (of course you will need an excuse as to why you are wanting her to take a test because if she thinks its because you don't believe her then she's gonna turn it around on you and start a fight so she can get out of taking one. Use an excuse like you want to take a picture to send it to a family member or close friend WHEN SHE decides she is ready to tell people). Ask her nicely to take one tho, like you are excited and NOT like you are accusing her of lying. If she refuses to take one or finds an excuse not to take one then you will know she isn't really pregnant. A woman who is really pregnant wouldn't mind taking a test because she would have nothing to hide. Does all that make sense? Sorry its so long! Hopefully it helps and I'd love to know how things turn out!
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ok thanks thats put my mind at ease a little bit wat shud i do, ignore her or demand her to do a test infront of me im not sure i just want to be left alone and to get on with my life
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1615840 tn?1311190191
Normally anyone who changes their story that often is lying. I can see thinking you are and finding out you aren't after a doctors appointment but if she is constantly going back and forth on everything from the time her doc appointments are to the actual pregnancy then I would say she is most likely lying about being preg. Maybe she is trying to use a pregnancy to get back together with you, or maybe she feels you hurt her and this is a way to get back at you. But either way... if she wont let you go to the doc with her and she wont show you a home pregnancy test then I'd say its a safe bet that she isn't pregnant.  
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