How do I tell my boyfriend??

[Angela_88]

I'm 22, and my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years now. We've been living together for the past 6 months. We've both discussed children and marriage in the future, and know that it's something we both want but were planning on waiting another year before we got married, and then started our family.

I just found out yesterday that I am indeed pregnant. I took a test in the morning and it was positive, so I followed up with a doctor that afternoon. I'm almost 6 weeks weeks along.

I know that my boyfriend is going to be surprised, hell, I'm still in shock myself. I know it's going to be difficult, we're not 100% at the point in our life to be completely prepared (we have 2 roommates) so we're going to have a lot to figure out.

I just wanted to know if you ladies had any idea whatsoever on how I should tell him? He's been out of town at his parents house for a couple of days and comes back tonight.

Help!

[Spiket77]

I'm happy to hear you were already talking marriage and kids. That makes this situation a lot easier. He will probably take it pretty well, after the shock of course :)

I agree that just sitting him down and letting the cat out of the bag is the best approach.

Best of luck to you!

[amandamae1126]

Angela - I would just sit him down and say "I need to talk to you. I'm really nervous to say this. I'm anxious and it's hard to say, so please be kind and supportive. But, I'm pregnant. I know we didn't plan this right now, but it is what it is and we have no choice but to be excited. I love you and I know we can do this together. How does it feel to be a dad?"  I wish you thes best of luck hun. Unplanned babies are very loved and well taken care of too! It's the PARENTS that make it work. Congrats and have a happy and healthy 9 months! :)

Also, I would be prepared to answer questions about how condoms are not 100% effective. Boys can be defensive when it comes to these things and think that condoms are like titanium or something! LOL!

[Angela_88]

Thanks everyone. That's what I keep telling myself! Everything happens for a reason. :) Definitely think I'm going to end up blurting it out... that, or throw the positive test in his face aha.

[paula181]

Wow then if it happened while you were on the pill then its obviously meant to be!! :))

[Megs2girls7]

Never mind my comment about not preventing...sorry..wow that's crazy that is still happened. Like I said everything happens for a reason! Congrats again!

[Megs2girls7]

unfortunately sometimes life doesn't always go the way you planned it but that's not always a bad thing. If kids are something that you've talked about and both want than it shouldn't be too much of an issue. Obviously you guys were not preventing so this shouldn't be too much of a surprise. You're only 6 weeks so you've got quite a bit of time to figure things out. Everything happens for a reason and it will all be figured out in time.

Now a far as telling him you just need to sit him down and tell him. The sooner the better. Unless you're looking for a cute way to tell him...which honestly I'm not very good at because I was too excited I just blurted it out. =o) However I know a lot of the ladies on here have some really cute ways of telling. I just can't remember any of them right now.

Best of luck to you and let us know how it goes when you talk to him. Congrats on your pregnancy!

[Angela_88]

Thanks for the advice...

But just to let you know, we didn't have unprotected sex ever. I've been on the pill for 6 years and we use condoms. So... kind of a miracle baby here lol.

[Cassandrajane]

I told my Boyf via text... I was preg before found out at 22 weeks... but was ill so had to terminate. Then had an MC, then got preg in the same week... and well I told him like this

Guess what... I got this boyfriend yeah, he is a bit of a geek, tall, waddles like a penguin, looks like a meerkat, is going to be a daddy, is lovely, and just a think between me and you... smells really bad!

he went... say the daddy bit again?? And So I sent him a pic of my test! LOL

Good Luck

x

[paula181]

I think you should sit down and just tell him, yeah he might be surprised but thats what you get when you have unprotective sex. You might find that hes very happy with you being pregnant, so stop worrying and tell him tonight, if you keep him waiting longer then he wont be happy knowing that you knew n he didnt.
Youll be fine hun, wishing you a healthy pregnancy :))

[student1519]

hey, I think that you should tell him because at the end it is not your oen responsibility.