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284738 tn?1283106819

I don't understand why people I don't even know feel the need to ruin my life....

As most of you know my boyfriend didn't tell his parents about the baby as of yet. Well yesterday matt ( my boyfriend) mom calls him and she is in an uproar. She heard through Matt's ex girlfriend that I was pregnant and that it wasn't Matts. I have never met matt's mother nor his ex girlfriend. So now instead of me meeting her then us telling her its all messed up. She was telling Matt he needs to get a paternity test and that if it is his it doesn't mean he has to stay with me. She says I'm tryin to trap Matt into staying with me. I have never met this woman so I understand that she would believe the ex because she doesn't know me but she knows her son and she should know that he wouldn't choose to be with a girl who would do that to him. I just don't understand how people can be so rude. I have told Matt time and time again that he does not have to stay with me if he doesn't want to. We can raise this baby together... but apart. He is the father 100% and he knows that and if things didn't work out between us I would never keep the baby from him. Now its like Matt;s mom already has this perception of me that isn't even true. Matt won't even speak to his mother now and I feel responsible for that because Matt is sticking up for me. I just don't understand his ex.. they have been broken up for almost a year and she is with someone else why in the world would she want to do something like this? Im a mess right now I don't want there to be bad blood between me & matt's mom she is going to be a grandma for goodness sakes I just don't know what to do.
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284738 tn?1283106819
Thank you for all of your advice you ladies have made me feel alot better Thank You
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178590 tn?1294176767
I would just try to get to know her as a person and maybe don't talk about the baby for a bit...you know since it's touchy subject with her.....if she wants to talk about it let her bring it up...I know hard not to talk about your baby when you're so excited....but let her get to know you before talking about the baby.  Just be nice and when she tries to provoke you just keep your calm and be kind to her back.
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284738 tn?1283106819
I understand what you all are saying but its hard for me.. I have this need for people to like me and I can't stand thats she doesn't or may not like me.  Matt's ex and him were together for 3 years so his mom and her are still close I guess. I don't mind that ... that's her business but its not right for her to run to his mom and tell her something like that. MAtt told me not to worry about it but I just don't want to cause any problems. Im hoping she will come around
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284738 tn?1283106819
Yes we were suppose to go out to dinner this weekend but now its seems useless.. his dad is in iraq so I dont get the chance to meet him until June. What do I say to his mom? Shes upset either way. She doesnt think that a yr into our relationship we should be having kids and we are both still in college. We both hold down full time jobs as well. I know its not up to her but i kind of wanting her blessing you know. At least we have my mom she is there for us no matter what and I really hope his mom comes around
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327668 tn?1224792350
Pink you don't need her stress while your pregnant... it's not good for the baby. Seems like Matt has made his decision. When something like this happens, realistically the only thing you can do is sit back and wait for the baby to be born. If you truly have no worries, tell her you will get a perterinity test, to prove it. This will put anyone's fears aside.
Of course the Ex is gonna make a play she is probably jealous. Why is his mom talking to her anyways? Thats just creepy.
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326590 tn?1296062449
Relax and take a deep breath...Sometimes as parents we over react without even thinking things through. Give her time to absorb the news. She is probably more hurt that she didn't hear it from her own son. If she doesn't come around it's her loss. This is about the baby, you and Matt. Good luck and keep your head up.
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178590 tn?1294176767
wow I would first off ignor her comments and don't feel bad about your BF sticking up for you and fighting with is mother.  You should be proud of him....and I don't know why people can be so cruel have you thought about maybe getting to know his mother and maybe she could see the type of person you truely are....
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