IMPORTANT, help!

I have some questions I'd like answered. My mom yells at me every time I ask her a question :(

1)how much worse are real contractions compared to Braxton hicks contractions? Or how bad are contractions when they just start?

2) Has anyone else had a really sharp stabbing pain inside the vagina around 36 weeks? It hurts for just a second but it hurts really bad. What could it be?

3)If I'm having Braxton hicks a lot what does that mean?

4)What do they do at the 3D ultrasound? Do they stick it up your vagina?

5) And which name is better, Addison Rowan or Avery Rowan :)

3)

[JewelzD]

Hi to answer ur question BH are not regular and are dull real contractions  start out like a cramp and the pain works its way up u will know the real thing u wont be able to focus and i had that same sharp pain it feels like a swift kick to the crotch its just the way the baby moves or sits at that time nothing to worry about it may be tolate to get the 3D thats what they told me but ask at next visit and they put it on ur tummy it does not go inside u and I like Addison Rowan

[Heatherm4]

Real contractions are a lot more intense then Braxton Hicks and can include back pain as well. You'll also be able to time them...they will progressively hurt more and more.

The stabbing pain is normal unfortunately :( Not a fun feeling!! It's just pressure on it or it could mean some cervical changes.

If you're having lots of BH then it's best to change up what you are doing. If you are sitting- walk around or vice versa. You may also get them a lot when you are slightly dehydrated. So drink lots of water./

Not sure about the 3D ultrasound- I think they are all different. I've never had one.

I like Avery Rowan. :)

[lisas9]

Contractions hurt a lot more than braxton hicks. Contractions start off as period pains and get worse as you get more. The pain gradually builds up until it peaks and then fades away. It doesn't really mean anything if you are getting a lot of braxton hicks, but you tend to get more in the last few weeks. Stabbing pains are most likely stretched ligaments and nothing to worry about. I've never had a 3d scan so can't answer that one. Both names sound great, my youngest is called Rowan. I hope this helps!

[heyhihellobaby]

Are contractions really unbearable? :( if I can get a tattoo that took almost three hours on my ribs and on my arm can I go through contractions?

[camocutie]

Ok ur first.question contractions are that bad when.they first start but they do get worse and u will know the difference between braxton hicks and the real deal u just know for ur second question I'm only 30 weeks and have had stabbing pain in the va jay jay already I think its just tryingto prepair its self for whats coming ur third question all braxton hicks are is ur bodys way of getting ur utarus ready for labor ur fourth question I have 4d ultrasounds every 5 weeks no they don't do them vagainaly unless u r having actual contractions then they do it inside and  final i like them both question

[heyhihellobaby]

I'm asking how bad contractions hurt before 4 cm because at 4 cm I'm getting an epidural and won't feel them anymore. So how bad of pain will I be going through before the epidural?

[lovelyglover]

Contractions are different for everyone every body reacts diffently...but I think yu having a tattoo means nothing honestly I haven't had my baby yet but my sister said labor is the worst thing she ever went thru and she's covered in tattoos...getting tattoos is a different type of pain

But.like I said everyone's body reacts differently

[JewelzD]

I am a wimp when it comea to pain but I had all 3 of my babies natural I didnt want any meds cause i dont want anything in my back it freaked me out at that thought its bearable u can do what ever u put ur mind to and if the pain is to bad u can always ask for pain management they have more then just n epidural

[heyhihellobaby]

Jewlz thanks for making me feel better.

The comment about labor being "the worst thing you'll ever go through" please keep those kind of comments to yourself. I'd rather go in to labor knowing it's going to be painful but I don't want to think that it's going to be the worst experience of my life.. Thanks..

[JewelzD]

their is no way if knowing some dilate to four with out contractions at all its all up to ur body it takes over this is what we were made for call your hospital they should have classes u can attend to help u better understand

[lovelyglover]

Don't ask for advice if yu dont want it! I never said it was the worst thing YOU will ever go thru... I said my sister said it was the worst thing SHE ever went thru... all I was trying to get at was the pain shouldn't be compared to tattoos!

Geez

[lovelyglover]

And I did say EVERYONE reacts differently

[heyhihellobaby]

Yeah I think I'm going to take a class, I just turned 19 and found out i was pregnant at 34 weeks and I'm 36w4d now. So I'm trying to shove 8 months into one month and it's very hard, and stressful. I didn't plan on having a baby. So it's very scary to go through something you didn't plan on doing especially when you don't have any time to think about it. I'm STILL not showing, I don't look pregnant at all, i just have a tiny little baby bump that just makes me look like I gained a little weight that's how I didn't know I was pregnant the whole time. My doctor said since I'm still so toned and smaller that contractions might not hurt as bad, but they might hurt worse. Who knows. But I really just am scared and I want to get the labor part over with. I'm so excited about the baby now. So I guess that will take some of the pain away, thinking I'll get to see her.

[mthompson3]

Lovelyglover is right...I don't think she was being rude or inconsiderate in any way. She never said you will be in that much pain but tattoos are in no way comparible to labor. My husband is a tattoo artist so you can only imagine how many tats I have and having my 2 kids was an indescribable pain.

In my opinion you should consider that other people aren't always trying to scare you or be rude before you jump to conclusions

[JewelzD]

yes u will be fine i know your scared but you'll be strong for your baby girl just breath through the contractions dont be scared dont fight them just try n relax n pick a focus point u can try bringing ur ipod to listen to music to take ur mind off it I m always here if u need anything else answered some people will tell u its the worst pain they ever felt but that is them and how they feel everyone and every body is different and can take more pain then others

[heyhihellobaby]

Would you want someone to tell you when you found out you were pregnant at 8 months with your first child that this might be the worst pain you'll ever go through? I'm scared and that just made it completely worse.

[mthompson3]

Don't even think of it that way. Think of the prize at the end.
Giving birth is a very painful experience but so worth it and you can't go in there with the mindset of "this is really gonna hurt" because that is only going to make it worse. Obviously the pain isn't completely unbearable otherwise women wouldn't continue to have kids but its definitely no walk in the park

[heyhihellobaby]

So all of y'all are basically saying no matter if I get the epidural it's still going to be really painful? What's the point in one then? :(

[mthompson3]

I had one natural and one with an epidural. The epidural helped to ease the pain but did not diminish it completely, it is way less painful than a natural birth though

[heyhihellobaby]

Oh gosh I might as well get used to the fact that I'm going to go through hell :(

[Adjanaesmom]

If you get the epidural most likely you should not feel anything but everybody is different cuz some women say they still felt pain but I had one and I didn't feel anything but pressure from them piling the baby out from c-section.

[lisas9]

I think that she was just being honest. It does hurt a lot and it is something that you need to be prepared for. With all of mine the pain got unbearable during the last couple of centimeters, at that point I can not think of any pain which is worse. That's not meant to scare you, Im just being honest. The first 4cms are painful, but I was still walking about at that point so it wasn't incredibly bad. Women go through natural labor all of the time and it is just for a few hours, compared to a lifetime of happiness once your baby is here. Focusing on something really does help, even if it is just a spot on the wall. What really got me through was thinking that is one less contraction I have to go through and one step closer to seeing my.baby.

[mommyTobe_12]

You need to be prepared and ready for the worst. If by go in thinkin it won't be that bad or it'll hurt a lil then I'm pretty positive it'll be a much worse experience. I'd rather someone tell me it'll be the worst pain I ever feel in my life , and that's exactly what they did. and my contractions were that bad.

my epidural wore off on the left side of my body a couple hrs after getting it. they had to do several more tries.

Again, everyone is different and so Are their experiences

[heyhihellobaby]

Okay I'm prepared that it's going to be the worst day of my life and very painful. Thanks you guys for making me feel SO much better.

[yourstruly21]

Someone's overreacting

[heyhihellobaby]

I'm not over reacting I'm bring sarcastic. Since I've been on here everyones said that it's going to be the worst pain and experience of my life and someone even told me that I was going to go paralyzed or die. So I think I'll delete this now and just talk to my doctor. Thanks for the support

[JewelzD]

No sweety that is just how its comming across but its going to be the best day if your life you are bringing your baby into the world and there is no other feeling in the world u got this like i said u dont have to get an epidural there is other pain management options

[Bri_1985]

No offense hun, but you asked us for our opinion, and we told you our story. Do I feel my 3 deliveries were the worst day of my life? Heck no, I have plenty of whoppers to beat those. However, it was painful but totally worth it. Oddly enough its like getting your tattoos. I'm sure some part of it was painful BUT in the end you enjoyed the outcome. Going into labor will be painful, BUT the birth of your child will be worth all of it.

[mrsh72911]

I went all natural. I was 4cm the first time they checked me at the drs st 37 weeks. Two later I was 6cm and had my daughter 4 days later. I really didn't have much pain. Like above poster said everyone's body reacts differently. I didnt start having pain until I was pushing after they broke my water. I.didn't even want fluids, but had to because I got dehydrated.
Dont stress your self out too much about labor.

Just stay focused and try to relax yourself.
For name I personally like addison :)

[dianaexoh]

I'm confused. On the first post you made on this website you said you found out six weeks ago at 30 weeks. Then on a post from I believe yesterday you said you found out at 32 weeks. Now here you say 34 weeks. Which is it?

[KTowne]

Well hun, you chose to have sex and get pregnant (like the rest of us) so therefore, this is the consequence and something all of us have to go through. I agree with the poster that said don't focus on the pain that you'll be going through, focus on the prize at the end. Labor WAS the most painful thing I've went through, I can't even remember how painful it was now, and I'm doing it again, a LOT of us are, so we must all be crazy, haha!! You'll forget it before you know it! Contractions before 4 do hurt, but they're tolerable, definitely.. I think you'll surprise yourself when you get there, when it comes to your child you get some extreme inner strength.

[KTowne]

Oh and personally, Avery, love that name! Addison is very popular now!

[Stax360]

why ask questions you really dont wont to know the answer to? is this why your mum wouldnt answer your questions? The only question im going to answer for you is Addison Rowan lovely name. all the best with the best birth of your baby,

[Averysm0mmy]

i dont want to sound like a you know what...but you should be more concerned about after the baby is born. being a single parent is going to make you pull strength out of places you didnt know you had!  but its worth it in the end! just breathe and go day by day. youll do fine.

[Nini2686]

I've read your last posts and you're extremely defensive and do not want to hear anything negative. Nobody told you that you were going to be paralyzed or die. You asked about an epidural and the poster explained that she would never get one because 2 girls she knows had bad complications. Giving birth is EXTREMELY painful but when you're holding your baby in your arms for the first time you will forget it all.

I've had 2 kids and the pain was all worth it.